AIBU To try to leave my job

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First post so be gentle with me. I'm finding it harder and harder to do my job at the moment for a number of reasons but I'm struggling more and more with feeling like a failure. It's affecting every area of my life. My health is suffering and continues to get worse. I have a great amount of flexibility and earn reasonably well considering this but I just can't keep up with the industry changes as it doesn't interest me. Ideally I want to quit so I can focus on my family life (2 little ones, one older and dh is finding his job pretty stressful at the moment on top of all the stuff he does at home). I'm retraining to hopefully take up a more part time role that I feel will fit much better with our lives. But it will mean a hit to income. We are reasonable comfortably off at the moment but still struggle to do big things like holidays. Am I being selfish wanting to make things more out of reach. I feel we waste money on some things which could be reined in if things weren't so stressful but can we seriously cope with the change. What areas can I save money in that I may not have thought of? I think there would be around £1k a month difference. Am I being selfish putting my physical and mental health and family life first?

Am I being selfish putting my physical and mental health and family life first?

Do you really think anyone would say yes to this? How is it ever selfish to look after your health? Surely if your health deteriorates the effect on your family would be far worse than if you just go part time?

Unfortunately yes I do know people who would think that. That I should just suck it up and deal with it. We have financial commitments like everyone and I guess I'm worried about whether I'm right to risk the chance that we would struggle. My husband wouldn't be able to have the same choice easily as this would mean we would lose our house etc so is it fair for me to take the "easier option"?

What does your husband think?

Hi OP. Sorry you're having a bit of a tough time right now!

It is NEVER selfish to put your health first in my opinion. If your physical and mental health is suffering then that is the priority. I completely understand you're worried about the financial aspect and that DH is a bit stressed too, that's understandable.

I think sit down and have a proper chat with your DH and make a decision together. I'm sure he and your DC want you to be as happy and healthy as you can be! I understand it's difficult to take a step back and look after your own well-being, but it's so so important. I wish you all the best.