Ds does a sport that ex loves - ex got him into it and now coaches on the team etc. All good. The problem is, at the relevant time of year it takes up an awful lot of time. For some reason, ds plays in 3 age group teams, which means at least 2 matches a week.
Ex only has the dc on Mondays, but we have an agreement that he takes ds to any weekday matches because I simply can't - he doesn't really work, just odd hours and I am a f/t teacher. I can't spend 3 hours a night 2/3 a week hanging around at these places, and the venues are far and wide, and it would also mean lugging ds2 with me to hang around too (he has no interest in this sport.) Also, since ex is involved in the coaching, it's hardly doing me a favour as he'd be going anyway.
We've had a few issues since this season started - for the first week ex failed to give ds tea and was dropping him off at 9pm not having eaten since lunchtime, or no more than a quick snack. I made it clear this had to stop. He also forgets stuff that ds needs for school the next day, like shoes, other bits of uniform etc. When that has happened I have rung and asked him to drop it round and, up until now he has done so (lives 3 minute drive away!).
Tonight he dropped ds off with no school uniform - I have some that is in the wash, and the rest must all be at ex's. He needed to bring at least one set here, but he hasn't. I rang him and he went off on one, saying I needed to come and collect it for a change. Apart from why should I, as I didn't forget it, ds2 is asleep and I'm not prepared to leave the house without him knowing. And why should I? He then hung up on me, meaning I have had to put a wash on and now, when I want to fall into bed, I have to wait for it to finish to put tumble drier on and will need to iron it in the fucking morning.
My life is so ridiculously busy and stressful and it's little yet enormous things like this that tip it over into unmanageable. I have actually been crying, which is ridiculous. He pays nothing, I sort everything, this sport is his thing so surely it could be the one thing he sorts properly. And I do realise ds is old enough to be a bit more organised (11), but he is actually very good and ex is fucking adult. Anyway, there is another match tomorrow.
I know IBU but I feel like saying if tomorrow isn't better, he'll have to cut it to one match per week? I can't actually do that, so how can I cope with this for another 7 weeks?