To want to buy another house in ten years...

[FlyingDandelionSeed]

We just moved house a month ago. We had to - our previous house didn't have enough rooms for our baby to have a bedroom, and we are hoping for more kids. Selling and finding somewhere new took ages (well over a year). The house itself is a compromise between what DH and I wanted, it's definitely not what I would have chosen. That said I'm actually pretty happy here, and I think we made the right choice (enough room for children, good schools etc).

However, DH keeps making comments about it being our 'forever home', him never moving again, only leaving when they carry him out in a box etc.

I find the thought so depressing. Yes it's a nice enough house for now, and maybe we won't be able to afford to move again, but if we can afford it 10-15 years down the line I would like to hope we could move again into a house that was more than just 'ok'.

I'm late thirties, I'm not ready to give up on the dream of a lovely home one day. (I feel like it's the only dream I have left - I met DH far too late to have the big family I once dreamed of, I've failed to make it into my dream career).

I know house moving is expensive and stressful, but AIBU to want to move again in a decade or so? How often do other people plan on selling up and buying a new house?

I don't have the experience of this myself, but one thing I will say is you may feel differently about it when it has been your family home for a decade.
My grandparents bought a house that my nan absolutely hated when they were first married, but they're currently happy in the same house 60 years later!

You've only just moved, it's pretty expensive and stressful, let him have his fantasy for a bit. In ten years time having lived there for a good while and having a good distance from the last selling/ buying nightmare he will probably see it differently

You only moved a month ago, your DH is probably remebering the stress and the hassels and saying never again to that! In a few years once the horrors have faded he may feel differently.....and you also might feel so settled that you can't imagine ever living elsewhere. Give you self time, enjoy your new home and worry about all this in 10 years. And by then you can use the 'need to be near good secondary schools' card so more likely to convince him!

I have never understood this dream house/forever house mentality. I love moving, but then we move countries frequently. This is the longest I have lived somewhere (6years) as my kids were going through high school. I can’t wait to move again.

I know how you feel, we bought a house last year that keep referring to as our ‘forever home’. It’s lovely, plenty big enough for us, good location etc. I can’t stand the thought of committing to staying in one house in my mid 30’s though! Luckily DH feels like the same and we have a 5 year plan to move

I also think you're both jumping the gun a little here. Settle in and see how you feel and what your finances are like in a few years. One month after moving in is not the time for these decisions.

Not unreasonable at all, nothing would make me want to move house more than my DH saying they will have to carry me out in a box! We all need to have things to look forward to in life and to say this is it in your late thirties would utterly depress me. The house you are in now may not suit your life in years to come anyway. Your DH may be saying all this now though because buying houses and moving etc is very stressful so he can’t imagine going through it again, but this mindset might fade away after a while. If he is serious that this really is it for you both it would appear that you both have different life goals and you may have to have a full and frank conversation on what you both want from life. If my DH said that to me and completely ever refused to move from a house I was not happy in then I would be looking for somewhere for myself as we would be totally miss matched as a couple.

We moved in 11 weeks ago and will probably be putting it on the market next April as we've changed our minds about the secondary school choice for DS9.

I've just it valued at £48k more than I paid for it as I've done a fair bit of work so it's paid for the work plus moving costs already and will hopefully go up a little more by this time next year. Fingers crossed!

This is my 8th house in 14 years. I love moving!