Would I be a CF to change my plans?

[sailorcherries]

I booked a weekend away with 3 of my bridesmaids (one couldn't make it), for a Fri and Sat night requiring trains on the Fri and Sun.

I've been stressed and forgetful recently and this weekend is still 3 months away.

I've checked my calendar today and realise I've actually double booked the Sunday. The weekend away plan was to relax on Sunday before a late afternoon train home. My original plan, made a year ago, was to take DS to a sporting event. As it was booked so far in advance and we don't have the tickets through yet it clearly slipped my mind.

DS is over the moon to be going. Bridesmaids are excited too.

I had two thoughts -

1. Go on the Friday as planned and travel home alone the Saturday night. Their plans won't change (sister, cousin and sil so they all know each other) and I won't miss out too much. I hate clubs and I'm not a big drinker, this would be their chance to do that as Friday is more lowkey.
2. Stay the entire weekend and have DP or my parents take DS. I will smile and go to a club but it's not my thing, bridesmaids will enjoy it. He had been looking forward to going and I wanted to share this with him but he'll enjoy it regardless of who he is with. I, selfishly, wanted to share this with him though as some of his idols will be present.

This isn't a hen or anything but a trip the girls wanted to do as something fun.

Those are really my only two options. Would I be a CF doing this? What would you do?

Could you rearrange your weekend with the bridesmaids?

Are all the train tickets already booked etc? If the weekend away is still 3 months away, any chance to change it to the weekend before or after? I think your friends will be really disappointed if you go home on the Saturday evening but I understand why you want to go with your son.

If it can't be changed, and your son would be equally happy going with someone else, then you should really honour your commitment.

Weekend is hard to rearrange due to work. Initially my sister was to book a one night deal and left it too long and we ended up with a two night diy break.

Everything booked and paid for individually. Staying in an apartment so no loss of occupancy. I'd lose money if I left early.

Seems a shame to come home early. I guess you need to decide which means more to you. Will your bridesmaids be understanding if you come home early? Will DS be ok about you not being there?

In your shoes I'd probably send DH to the event with DS.

Sending DP means finding a babysitter for DS2.
My cousin and sil would be fine, dsis has said the only option is to get the first train and then attend the 2nd half of the event as all other options are daft.

I never wanted a two night affair. We noticed a deal for one night dbb and went for it. Dsis left it too late and we've ended up with a two night nothing included deal. They agreed to two nights before I noticed the messages and I agreed as I'd feel awful pulling out entirely.

It's a nightmare but seems like I'll need to send DS with someone else. Our original plan won't even have me back for the 2nd half of the thing. I'm absolutely gutted as I know (and knew) I'd hate Saturday night but went along with it because they wanted it.

This clearly means a lot to you so maybe have a private chat with just your sister, tell her your dilemma and see how she feels. But I think you would have to go into the conversation fully prepared that you may have to sacrifice the day with your son.

Thing is, none of us know you and them. So for all we know, your sister may say "well yes I know you hate clubbing so its fine" or similar! Obviously you know all the people involved.

Sorry cross posted there and have seen you've already done that!

If you do go for the whole weekend could you say you don't really fancy clubbing ( which I totally get ) and do something else?

Sister is causing a fuss.
This is our cousin we've known for years and been out with before. She has also been out with sil2b on their own. Yet me not being there for one night will be 'too awkward for her'. Fuck off.

Seems like I'll be missing the event with DS and I'll see if my dad can take him, or ask my parents to watch DS2 and DP can take him.

I knew I was going to hate the Saturday night and only agreed because they wanted it, this makes it even shittier. I don't even want to go now. I'm more of a homebody, a dinner and few drinks away (with a lie in) was bliss. It then spiralled to dinner and a few drinks, a full day of shopping, another dinner then a bloody night of clubbing.