Aibu to think this is fine

[notaspornerhonest]

I have been out of work since birth of 1st dc in end of 2015. I had this dc with ex who I split with during pregnancy and subsequently had a court order stating contact which he has since changed due to many different jobs on his end. I have been flexible throughout as I would have to handle the majority of childcare which wouldn't be cost efficient on my end.
I have since had DC2 with current fiancé and due to marry very shortly. In between my dm was very ill and died and DP was made redundant so the decision was made that he would stay at home to look after the children and I would go back to work full time.
I have been offered a full time post with good opportunity for progression and pension schemes etc
... so WIBU to tell ex that I am going back to work and cannot personally facilitate handover in the mornings (he would normally come at 10am) but can do evening pick ups (after work) and DP will be minding the children (although dc1 does go to preschool for 2 sessions a week)?

Bump

Yes I think it’s absolutely fine as you and your fiancé are in a stable realtionship, living together with a dc it’s not like your leaving the child you and ex have together in the care of a man you’ve known 5 minutes which would of course be a diffrent situation completely.

Has your ex or someone else said this wouldn’t be ok?

I'm not sure i understand what you are asking? Why can't ex collect the child from your partner? As presumably he lives with you?

Ex is difficult about many things so I anticipate this to be difficult too. For example the court order never stated it had to be only myself and ex doing handovers but he was horrible about letting my mum (a teacher) do any handover.