About DH and his sperm-frying laptop habit?

[Susannach]

DH and I have recently started TTC#3. We have two healthy children who were conceived pretty quickly and I have no reason to expect that this one will be any different, so maybe I’m just being hysterical overly cautious.

But still. I’m making a conscious effort to eat well, take supplements, etc. etc. DH isn’t, which is fine, his choice. But he also frequently sits for long periods with his laptop on his lap, which apparently is really bad for sperm. I’ve told him to sit at a table, or at least put a book under it or something, but he still does this on a daily basis.

I know this makes me sound like a TTC obsessed nutjob, and maybe I do lean that way a little bit, but also he knows it bothers me and that there’s a chance it could affect things, so AIBU to be pissed off that he still does it?

Well, igf you’re making all the effort to be healthy etc, it does sound annoying.

But if he’s not using his laptop naked actually against his balls, surely it won’t have much of an effect?

Buy him a laptop tray, it plugs into your laptop and keeps it cool.

I had to laugh at your heading. I thought he was watching porn and splattering the laptop with sperm for a moment. www.mirror.co.uk/news/uk-news/what-can-neighbours-smoking-cannabis-10314237

ignore the above link, thought it was a grin...

@welshmist that's a whole other issue 😂

Well welsh, at least then they’d be nice and cool

Thanks for the laptop tray suggestion though, I might just do that.

I know I’m probably being a bit obsessive, but it’s hardly massively more effort to sit at the table and I just feel like we might as well do everything reasonably possible to maximise our chances. I should add he’s just as keen as me for another baby.

OP my DH sits with his iPad on his knee all night and I'm sure that's just as bad but he won't listen either. We've been ttc just over three years now and, like you, I do all the supplements, healthy eating, exercise, bbt etc whilst he does absolutely nothing. It's super super annoying! Have you both been to see anyone about helping conception? We have had a SA done and it came back his issue not mine which I've tried using as a reason he should change. Your DH might need that kick. Mine metaphorically puts his fingers in his ears singing la la la 😂

Oh no nearly I’m sorry! No we’ve literally just started trying for this one, and no problems with the other two, but I still don’t get why he can’t just humour me.

@Susannach our son was conceived without any issue at all. The only difference is now that I have more stress, a wedding ring and he has an additional few stone in weight on him. None of this seems to make him realise where we should start making changes! I want to shout to him PUT DOWN THE BISCUITS AND GO FOR A RUN 😆

I thought he was watching porn and splattering the laptop with sperm for a moment.

Me too. That definitely says something about us.

Do you have any evidence that a laptop is bad for sperm? By evidence I mean a peer reviewed scientific article, not some bollocks from The Mail.

@QueenDoris do you know of evidence that says it's ok? Or evidence that iPads are ok? This isn't in a PA way I genuinely would like to find some to set my mind at ease. My DH is constantly on his iPad and if it's causing his morphology to be low I'm stopping him.

Is it supposed to be the heat generated? In which case a tray would help a bit. Can’t see that an iPad generates as much heat as a standard laptop so I’d be less worried about that.

I'd be more worried about laptops as they generate a lot more heat than iPads, a cooling tray is a good idea.

I think it’s the heat and I read somewhere also the WiFi messes with morphology?

Anyway, it’s probably all bollocks () but just in case I think I’ll look into the tray. He’ll probably refuse to use it but anyway.

years ago they said tight briefs were bad for sperm men should wear boxers. They work better when swinging free and cooler.

Human balls live in a dangly scrotum because the temperature there is optimum. They wouldn't work if they lived up in the abdomen like in some mammals. This is proof that God did not design the world because he definitely would have tucked balls away.

Why not give it a few months of trying first? You might conceive with no problems at all in which case there’s no need for either of you to get stressed about the laptop. After that if no success then you’ve got reasonable grounds to say he should stop the laptop habit.