I am in my mid 30s, single and childless by choice. I used to have a lovely group of friends. In my early twenties I had the time of my life with them. In my late twenties we talked about about almoat nothing but weddings, and I mucked in and was a supportive friend- I was a bridesmaid for 3 of them!
But now it’s time for babies and they’ve just gone off radar. I know it’s not personal. I know they’re still my friends deep down and they’ll probably want me back in 16 years. I don’t blame them. I understand. I work with mothers and children in my job, and I get it. But I am sad, because my social life has gone. Nobody rings me up any more to ask me how I am or invite me for a drink or to the cinema. I want to go on holiday but have nobody to go with. They go on midweek ‘mummies’ nights out or daytime coffee dates that leave me out. They don’t invite me because they think I am happy not be a mummy (and they are right) and I don’t want a sympathy invite. But, I am lonely.
I have one other single childless friend, but when I meet her all she does is talk about how she wishes she could find a man and have children too. I still meet up with her, but it is exhausting.
Is there a group of single and/or childless women in their 30s out there who want to socialise? Even an online group? If so who are they and how can I find them? I honestly feel like I must be the only one in the entire world.