To be upset with DH?

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27 weeks pregnant. Haven't been feeling well - fainted on Saturday. Came home from work at 11 today.
DH hasn't checked his phone all day. He does a hobby on Tuesday night - it is starting now. I have texted, whatsapped and emailed hoping to get through to him to ask him not to go. I could really do with a bit of TLC
AIBU to hope that he would have checked on me given I am feeling so rough?

I am assuming you've also called. YANBU what if something really bad had happened to you or baby? If he isn't at work in a place where it's not possible to use phones he should be contactable. After work there's no excuse.

Have you rung him?

Yeah I have called. He uses his phone a lot for work so I'm surprised he hasn't checked it.

I don't think there is anything wrong with you needing him right now because you are carrying his baby. Has he seen the texts? If he has I would be pretty pissed!

Not checking in with you is crappy of him. I wouldnt expect him to come home though.

football his email is linked to my laptop so I can see he hasn't checked his emails all day - I assume the same for texts.

Is there a chance he could be avoiding checking because he knows you’ll want him to cancel and he doesn’t want to?

I’d curl up in bed with a book and a cup of tea/snack and just forget about it.

Well, you would think he would. My DH is pretty similar though. I couldn't even get in touch with him when I had a heat attack 🙄

Heart attack even!

Thats really sad, does he love you OP?

madja I feel your pin. It's infuriating.
Hope you're OK after your heart attack?

callme yes he does, very much - but contact has always always been a bone of contention. We've had countless rows about it, and I'm more frustrated now given the pregnancy.

Yes, thank you, I'm pretty good now (I was only 40 when I had it)
He answers my texts a little better now though. Bit of a drastic way to teach him a lesson!
What helped me is sitting down and explaining how it made me feel when he didn't answer me, but presumably managed to answer texts etc from work colleagues. Bottom of the pile, but I don't think he got that initially.

I genuinely Think men don’t realise what us pregnant women go through as they will never experience it. Until the baby is here it’s almost like it’s not real. When i first found out i was Pregnant hubby decided to CHOOSE to work 7 weeks of night shifts. I had Terrible morning sickness (was actually more like evening sickness) so I’m 7 weeks i didn’t cook one meal, put hardly any wash loads on, didn’t clean the house. Hubby couldn’t understand why i had Turned into a slob as he said ‘the baby is the size of a pea’ he still doesn’t think even now that I’m 16 weeks. Your husband is probably just going about his life as normal because nothing has changed for him. He’s not feeling ill or tired or hormonal so he probably forgets you are. That doesn’t make it right btw and he definitely should be answering his phone in case something was to happen to you or the baby but sometimes men need stuff spelt out in black and white to them! I hope you feel better soon

Catmum I think that's what is irritating me so much - he did this a while ago and I did explain that I could go into labour or there be a medical issue that means contacting him would be helpful...

If he has always been a ropey with communication then probably not a huge surprise, people don't change that much! Hope you are feeling better soon, are any of your friends about?

He's just phoned me - he has been stuck at work.
Now crying because I feel like a bitch!

Would flowers and cake help?

Alison much obliged!!!

Anything else I can get you?
Don't beat yourself up about it. I flipped out at the drop of a hat when I was pg