AIBU to sell my engagement ring?

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I am struggling immensely at the moment, single mum of two children, housing benefit have reduced payments through their error but I'm struggling whilst they fix.

Fiancé cheated on me and it ended 3ish years ago now, why do I feel guilty about potentially selling the ring?

Traditionally, if a relationship ended, you returned the ring (along with any love tokens from the ex). So in theory you shouldn't even have the ring still. So sell it and turn it into useful cash - preferably to buy something needed rather than supplement the food bill, so every time you use the thing, you can say to yourself smugly "well, at least I got this out of him".

@MereDintofPandiculation I don't think that's true! Certainly the legal position is that an engagement ring is a gift and there is no obligation to return it. I can see why you might do so as a moral decision if you are the one to break of the engagement but where the ring giver is unfaithful I don't think there is any obligation to do so!

OP it's hard because it has sentimentality attached to it and that isn't easy to let go of. But don't feel guilty, it's yours to do whatever you like with and there is no reason why you can't use it to benefit you and your kids now.

2nd hand jewellery doesn't really sell for much so be prepared to get a lot less than you think it's worth

And, if you'd been married you wouldn't be struggling so much now as he would have to support you.

@whatshallidonow what a lot of nonsense. Why should she have married someone she knew cheated on her? When my mum and dad split up he gave her nothing. And she couldn’t afford a divorce.

Sell the ring, don’t feel guilty it is your ring/money.

It's fine the ring man was very rude asking me to guess what I think it's worth, what do I want for it etc.

Oh life hey!