For some background, both DH and I have good jobs but aren’t very academic. However it’s always been a sticking point for mil that DH “didn’t get grades in the subjects that matter” - her words not mine.
She’s now started projecting this onto DS. She’s always said how “bright” he is but as he gets older the expectations are increasing. I now take him to a “science” group for preschoolers where they do little experiments with paint, water, colours etc. It’s just a bit of fun! But it came up in conversation once and mil took it really seriously and said “that’s great it might mean he’ll be good at science at school and go on to get a good job”
Then this past weekend her and FIL visited and she openly said to DS in a serious tone “you’ll grow up to be a solicitor or a doctor” he is 3 ffs.
AIBU to think this attitude is potentially harmful and want to say something? I thought she was just being a doting grandparent by saying he was bright etc but I want to bring up my children to have a good work ethic and try their best etc rather than pushing them in a certain direction.