AIBU not to go halves with ex on DIY divorce?
As it's nearly 2 years since ex left (for someone else) I want to go ahead with divorce proceedings & asked ex to meet & talk things through. He was stalling saying he would talk in a few weeks. He did not want to meet up. So I asked if he was still standing by what he said 20 months ago & not making any claim on this house, which I actually bought before I even met him. (It's in my name, I always paid all bills & I live here with our 9yr old DD.)
He replied that he doesn't want anything now but wants a legal agreement that if I sell it before DD is 19 he gets a cut. He says this is to protect her interests so I can't sell it to buy a house with my bf. (If & when my bf & I do eventually live together we will write wills to protect our children's inheritance).
There's no way I could have ex dictating where & who I live with for 10 years.. .I told him this. I told him we would just have to put this house in marital pot along with debts (by time debts are paid half of equity will only be a few thousand) & HIS house. He bought it while still married so it's a marital asset.
So today he's changed his tune...hes been to see a solicitor & been advised it's best to have a clean break now....he says he has forms to fill in for DIY divorce which will cost £550. He says we can pay half each.
Would I be mad to still pay my solicitor (up to) a couple of thousand, or more (which I'm having to borrow) to get her to handle it?
I'm seeing mine for first free session on Wed. I'll see her for advice. But will she advise me to get her to handle the divorce just to make money? I don't suppose solicitors like DIY divorces.
I don't trust ex to do it properly. He's too blumin lazy to fill in paperwork. And what if he just doesn't bother cos he knows delaying will affect me. He's become a real control freak, especially since I met my bf.
But I'm very skint & saving money does appeal.
I really have no idea what to do.
Sorry this is so long.
Thank you for reading.
I'd be very grateful to hear of anyone else's experiences, or for any advice.
Thank you.