To not want to live in the house

[LaughAndLetLive]

Hi basically we're separating and we live in a 3 bed council house, he's moving out and he's letting me stay in the house with the dc. The thing is I don't want to live in this house, I like the house itself and the area, but I just don't want to live in the house because of all the bad memories.

I just want to move away to a new house and start fresh. He thinks I'm BU because I shouldn't move to a different area and change the kids schools because I just want to live a new house. So who is BU?

Surely you dont have to move areas? Could you ask the Council for a swap / start bidding on other houses.

It's not easy to get another council house. Stay put for a while and see how you feel when the dust has settled.

How would you move? Council wouldn't give priority so depending on where you live you could be waiting years . Maybe a swap but even they are not quick my sister has been trying for 3 years.

Don’t move. Change rooms with one of the children. Completely change the wallpaper/paint, move furniture around or cover with throws. Make it your own. You’ll fall back in love with it.

I think you should just stay put and not uproot the kids - they are going through a big change just now and it’s probably not ideal if they have to change house/schools/friends. Like pp suggested, do some decorating, get some new furniture and make it into somewhere you love

YABU for wanting to move the dc. Just redecorate, add lovely things, make it yours.

It does sound like the move would involve a lot of upheaval for the kids, would it have to be a new area? I love the PP's idea of letting the dust settle and redecorating.

I think moving the children during this very challenging time is being quite selfish. Your number one priority should be trying to make this separation as easy on them as possible. Moving and especially changing schools can be extremely traumatic for children. Make the house your own and start making new, happy memories.