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To not go because they have stupid nicknames

96 replies

AmperoBlue · 03/06/2018 19:30

Invited to dinner (supper is their chosen term) with long term partner. Invite by the couple and to meet a few more of their "chums" who are in town.
The thing is they act like they are in a Richard Curtis film.They are all "delightful" but it's so so grating. The conversations are always about something nice that happened either now or in the past. No one ever is really funny or interesting or anything really.
Some have made a bit of money but none are upper class or even upper middle so it's all a bit twatty.
The really annoying bit is that they all have fucking stupid nicknames like you did in the 80's. Even the teenage kids. I can't give them all as too outing but there's a Mumps, several with food nicknames and some others pronounce their names wrong for effect.
Yes they are all perfectly nice and there are worse things to be doing but if I have to call someone Scone again it will finish me.

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PorkFlute · 03/06/2018 19:43

Up to you if you want to go but Id probably go as they sound unintentionally very funny.

Caribou58 · 03/06/2018 19:44

I do know what you mean about the nicknames. My oldest brother (he's 63) has had a constantly used - by family and close friends - nickname for as long as I've known him and it's all we've ever called him between us all my life. I still feel a twat using it in front of anyone outside in the family, but his real name just doesn't work for me.

FASH84 · 03/06/2018 19:52

Please go and live update us on comedy style

FASH84 · 03/06/2018 19:52

*in

jamoncrumpets · 03/06/2018 19:53

If they're kind and mean no harm then I think you have to suck up the name thing and go.

ForalltheSaints · 03/06/2018 19:56

I can think of a lot better evenings, and so in your shoes would decline.

Birdsgottafly · 03/06/2018 20:02

"Invited to dinner (supper is their chosen term)"

They are two different meals, but what they are called is down to your upbringing etc. No need for your disdain at that.

You don't sound as though you like them at all, so don't go, you will pull the night down.

BachAtTheMoon · 03/06/2018 20:06

Is one of them called Chopsy? Take some Pombears! Bear

LanguidLobster · 03/06/2018 20:06

Have you spoken to your partner?

I'd be delighted if i had to call someone 'Scone'!

iamyourequal · 03/06/2018 20:10

Sorry OP but I think you should go and be open to enjoying it. It’s lovely to be invited to dinner (or even ‘supper’....lol). If they think highly enough of you to want to introduce you to their friends and bother making a meal for you accept it with good grace!

MrsJacksonBrodieTheSecond · 03/06/2018 20:12

I had an ex boyfriend whose parents insisted I called them Hoots and Cranky. It was so weird and awful. Yanbu at all.

PerpendicularVincent · 03/06/2018 20:16

Yanbu, I wouldn't go either. Too many affectations for my liking.

Racecardriver · 03/06/2018 20:17

@Birds twatty Londoner call dinner supper or even worse kitchen supper (why even pretend you have somewhere else you could have eaten?) because goof old fafioned dinner isn't unmistakably middle class anymore.

EstrellaDamn · 03/06/2018 20:17

Kitchen supper? That would have me feeling majorly punchy

Ethylred · 03/06/2018 20:19

Hard to tell who wins in the affectation stakes.
Them, for the absurd names? You, for caring?

HemanOrSheRa · 03/06/2018 20:19

Hoots and Cranky GrinGrinGrin

OohMavis · 03/06/2018 20:23

Oh go on!

Chips, Jonty and Porchie need you!

Hassled · 03/06/2018 20:25

Oh you must go - that sounds like comedy gold. I bet you'll have Shepherd's Pie, but it will be a special Shepherd's Pie made in some special magic way and you'll all have to go on and on about how remarkable it is. And then I'm thinking charades. How can you possibly miss charades?

crunchymint · 03/06/2018 20:25

Please go OP and do a live thread from it.

liz70 · 03/06/2018 20:29

Go, and address each other all evening as Fart and Bogey. You know what they say; if you can't beat them...

Notevilstepmother · 03/06/2018 20:29

Live thread. Pleeeease. Also I find an adapted bullshit bingo is a good way to survive such things.

Scribblegirl · 03/06/2018 20:31

Personally I think you sound mega judgmental. But crack on.

chocolateworshipper · 03/06/2018 20:31

Turn it into a game of Bingo and it'll be much more fun (as well as the live thread on MN obv). Make a couple of Bingo-style cards, write in the squares words like "chums" and "supper" and all the other cutesy word they clearly use. First one to fill their card gets to shout "house" at the top of their voice (whilst the other takes photos of their faces to post on MN).

CruCru · 03/06/2018 20:31

Yes, they sound quite annoying. However, please don't do a live thread - if they are nice and doing their best to make you welcome then that would just be unkind.

Tawdrylocalbrouhaha · 03/06/2018 20:32

They sound perfectly ok to me! If you're just going to be sitting there sneering because they're not even upper middle class and talk about nice things from the past and present (future would be ok?) then do give it a swerve. I'm sure you can find something more edgy to do.