Posting for traffic as I'm feeling really down tonight about this.
To put it in short, my partner seems to run away at the first sign of change or conflict. It's happened when he moved back in with his parents over a year ago (we don't live together, have been together 2.5 years), and it's happened again now that I'm moving into my own place, which actually happens to be closer to him than I am now. We haven't argued about it, but on both occasions he's said he's scared that it won't work out/the change will be difficult and tried to end the relationship. Last time this happened, we seemed to get past it (which meant I effectively ignored what had happened and allowed him back into my life without any explanation of why he acted so weird about things), and we actually went on to have a year of pure bliss.
It was about 2 weeks ago when it happened again. This time, he's called time on the relationship and said he thinks he needs at least a month or two to think about if he can deal with the 'pressure' of me moving, starting working full time (he's only ever known me to work part time and therefore I've been there to answer the phone or see him whenever he bloody asks), and whether this is what he really wants. I was really hurt and taken aback but I've agreed, so I guess right now I'm effectively single but I still find myself tearing up and hoping he comes back every day.
I know some of you might say that there's an underlying reason why he can't deal with change, or can't be with me anymore, and I'm open to those suggestions. I'm just wondering if I should put up with this nonsense, or should I 'man up' and leave him for good? I love him so much but the more this happens the more I wonder if he's got emotional issues and I should try to move on - but that'd be really painful because in every other aspect, our relationship is/was great.