To have gone nuts at having 'shit' spurted up mine and DS's legs?

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DS and I were getting changed in a cubicle at the swimming pool. Almost dressed when suddenly a stream of what I thought was shit spurted from the under the cubicle next to us going all up my legs, DS's and over our flip flops.

It took me a few seconds to register it at first and as the cubicle was silent (no baby sounds had come from it to explain a poonami and hadn't heard anyone in there), I suddenly thought that someone must have had diarrhoea in the next cubicle and a wave of bloody disgust comes over me.

I go and knock loudly on the cubicle and ask rather loudly what has just gone over the floor in the cubicle because we've got it over us.

A young girl about 12/13 opens it in only in a towel which I felt bad about afterwards and says she does not not what it is but it hit her on the shoulder.

It transpires that someone had lobbed a melted ice cream in a carton over her cubicle. It looked exactly like shit. She didn't get it on her as it slatted on the floor and hit us.

When the relief of seeing it wasn't someone's excrement had passed, I was still bloody furious that someone had done that and ranted a bit at the staff calling them 'little shits' in front of DS which he told me off about afterwards. I then ranted a bit again at reception and told them to look at their CCTV. Not blaming them but saying I'd never seen this sort of behavior in my life and they shouldn't be letting kids come back in the changing room when they'd bought food from the cafe.

Feel a bit like I went OTT now. Am a bit ragey at the best of times due to various things that I'm dealing with.

Would you have gone nuts at this?

Maybe they'll check their CCTV & realise that you're the one who needs keeping an eye on

I work in a shop and can confirm it is absolutely horrible to have customers shouting and swearing at you over things which are beyond your control. I have been reduced to tears by women who can't keep their temper and walk away as if I have no feelings at all. I'd apologize if I were you and try to control yourself next time. Complain if you wish, but be reasonable.

This is brill 😂 can we nominate for classics?? 😂

Yes you are.
A) For shouting through the cubicles to find out if it was Poo - really embarrassing if someone was ill enough to cause that sort of accident
B) For feeling bad afterwards when speaking to the young girl. You should have immediately checked she was ok and then backed off. I presume if you feel bad you knew you were too confrontational
C) For ranting at the staff
D) And then not being happy with that and ranting at reception
E) And then not being happy with that so checking if they sell 'shit coloured ice cream' in the shop for your son
F) writing an AIBU to state you definitely aren't BU

Compassion, if you thought someone had had an accident bad enough to spurt up your leg from the cubicle next door then wash immediately and check they are ok.

My children are young adults. 19/20ish. You're the tripe person who makes me cringe. My children were who you vented your anger on; would you mind if I raged at your child for something that they didn't have control over?

First. It was a childish prank. You were in a public place. Children are not robots. It was a prank!!

Second, you will find out that the overprotective, over reactions of people is destroying society! BOTH of dc have gotten into significant trouble for just such stupidty. A harmless prank, nobody injured but someone reports it and suddenly it's a CRIME. police love to have stupid dc to deal with rather than a true criminal.

It's usually good hearted fun that children are caught at. The truly obnoxious and criminal are sneaky enough to get away with things.

I'm ABSOLUTELY over the top angry at the lack of understanding or patience towards people today. When did we become a society of "don't touch me or you'll pay?"

The repercussions for what used to be innocent pranks are actual Life Changing penalties now.

You weren't hurt. You were frightened. Is it worth a family expelled? A child going to court?

DD is a valet and she says that a person went inside specifically to find someone to yell at bc he was slightly inconvenienced. Everyday people growl at her.
all day long. Leave capital letter notes saying "Do NOT MOVE SEAT " seriously? How is she supposed to drive if she can't reach pedals?

Our society expects everything to accommodate them. Life isn't like that. Common courtesy is no longer common but it needs to return.

Poor son.

Must be terribly embarrassed of his Mums behaviour.

I would have gone nuts if i thought it was shit as well
I would have laughed if it had of been though
Surely you would have known it wasn't shit by the smell lmfao 😃😃

Please please seek some support anger management. This is not healthy for your DS. It sounds like you have a great deal on your plate at the moment, but do seek help before there are long term consequences. I am saying this to you as a parent of DC whose other parent had anger issues, refused to address them or even discuss them, and caused irreparable damage to our family.

Yes, I would have been cross if this had happened to me, and I would have reported it to staff, but there s no way I would have ranted at them. your reaction was completely OTT, which you have somewhat acknowledged.

Shit is warm, ice-cream is cold and banging on doors is terribly uncouth.

OP, I never ever get like this on any forum or anything else, but I’m going to come out and say it:

You are totally unreasonable.

I honestly cannot understand where this ridiculous anger is coming from in you.

To confront a little girl. To shout and swear at staff. Then come on here and argue with people offering a contrary opinion.

What happened to make you so self absorbed and righteously angry, that your view on such a trivial matter had to be expressed through cursing at staff who had no control over it?

Talk about over reaction.

I’m sorry, I think you should spend time working out what drives this .

You sound like an absolute nut-job.

YANBU at all OP. The staff have a job to do and they need to deal with this disgusting behaviour and ban those children from the centre.

Shit smells of shit and is warm. Chocolate ice cream smells approximately of chocolate and is cold. Hope this helps.

This just reminded me of a time I ran into a McDonald’s to use the loo and whilst still seated I heard girls giggling outside the cubicle door, then my jacket that I had just dropped started to disappear under the loo door!!! I didn’t realize I could shout a sentence made up only of swear words and my very young daughters face when I appeared was a picture of absolute horror at me 🤣🤣

Imagine my disgust when someone WEED in a GLASS and served it to me only it was cold wee, and totally clear, and fizzy. DISGUSTING. How can I be expected to know it wasn't wee FFS?

Well... lets be honest... if you didn't think you'd been the tiniest bit unreasonable you wouldn't of posted on here. Was your reaction great? Possibly not. However, if your initial thought was a (usually) warm (not ice cold) runny shit had slat up yours and dc leg who knows how you'd respond? This is a simple case of fight or flight... and in this instance your brain got it wrong.

The 12yr old will be fine, she will probably tell the story for years to come. Your child will not become scarred because he heard the phrase "little shit" and you'll probably receive great customer service from now on as to not incite "batshit crazy" repeat performance so hold your head up high when you walk back in, even though you'll be mortified inside!

All in all... not the best public performance but nobody really got hurt. I dont think mumsnet should arrange a public hanging for you just yet

Well I trod in human poo in the work toilet the other week and the first thing I did was give it a tentative sniff - to ascertain that it really was poo.

Had it been ice cream I would have known about it!

Shit smells like shit. This was clearly not shit if you’d thought for a second!

Even if it WAS shit from the next door cubicle - banging aggressively was well oit of order. If it had been the girl she would likely be being ill!

Even if she did drop the ice cream she would hardly tell you with your aggressive manner.

You don’t sound very nice.

YANBU. Ice cream in a swimming pool changing area!!! For goodness sake, its usually boiling in there, ice cream wouldn't last a minute. Unless ice cream had been bought and then access allowed, hence the mess. Definitely pool needs a bit more supervision for those entering.

Were you never young?

That's quite funny.

Maybe it was this guy and it wasn't ice cream after all????

You and your kid have what you think is someone's shit all up your legs and your first thought would be to worry about the other person?

Yes, absolutely, as it would be for anyone with an ounce of compassion or empathy. Can you not stop for a second and imagine how that person would be feeling- physically, as obviously seriously unwell or with horrific problems, and also emotionally, from the utter humiliation?

And in that second that you stop for, you'll also have a chance to realise it's actually ice cream

Please re-evaluate your though process and actions. You were not a nice person in this episode.

@pinguine, if you’d actually had shit squirted on you, your first reaction would be disgust. That would be the natural human reaction. You’d then probably feel the urge to protect your child, fight or flight would kick in. That may only take a milli second, but your first reaction would definitely NOT be one of compassion for the person who’d shat on you. That would / should come after the initial instinct of disgust

@pinguine, if you’d actually had shit squirted on you, your first reaction would be disgust. That would be the natural human reaction. You’d then probably feel the urge to protect your child, fight or flight would kick in. That may only take a milli second, but your first reaction would definitely NOT be one of compassion for the person who’d shat on you. That would / should come after the initial instinct of disgust

@Strongmummy Actually, no. You're right in that I would feel disgust, but also confusion, concern and compassion- not anger. I'm not trying to sound like a saint, but I am pointing out that many of us are capable of being concerned about the welfare of strangers as well as ourselves and our children.

@pinguine - I have for concern for strangers, I just acknowledge that we’re human with instincts and the instinctive reaction to “danger” is fight or flight. It ain’t compassion. It takes a milli second to process, but a compassionate response to a perceived threat is absolutely not instinctive