Do you know your neighbours?

[MoonsAndJunes]

We have lived here for decades & I know the names of 3 people but rarely see them to talk to.
We are surrounded by houses and I haven't a clue who lives there.
Is it just me?
DCs go to school out of area, we commute.
It's very peaceful & quiet despite being an area with hundreds of homes.
AIBU to think I'm missing out? Neighbourly Bbqs and the like - or am I lucky?

I live on a council estate at the moment and there's some awful people round here so we keep to ourselves and know a few only to say hello to.
We're moving next week to a lovely house and I cannot wait.

My husband talks to them, but I just smile in their direction if I see them - I'm too shy to strike up a conversation.

Love our close, out of 9 houses, 6 are sociable. We have annual BBQs and Xmas parties. Feed pets/water plants when on holiday, happily take in parcels. Kids play out together. Have called on each other in emergencies. Last night one bought cake over. We don't go out together and respect privacy but can also have a hell of a party together!

I live on an estate. (Not a typical one I might add ). So even if I don’t know them. They know me . Everyone knows everyone here. But I like it and I’m a really private person.

We live in a cul-de-sac. We know the neighbours, but don't socialise with them (beyond the odd cup of tea when the DC are playing out the front). But know them by name and well enough to swap neighbourly favours such as plant watering, cat feeding and onion lending.

I know there names and a bit about the family they live with. Neighbour 8s nice but i dont ralk to her because she talks to the vile woman on the end so.i tell her zilch about me and vice versa. Sometimes we say hello.I do not know when they're on holiday etc.

Neighbour other side.. one of them is nice and we chat but rarely. The Lady she lives with it kills her to say hello.

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I’m in an end terrace, we know the elderly lady next to us as she had a fall once and we heard her calling the warden through that wall so we went over and helped.

Also the couple on the other side of her put a note through the door saying hello when they moved in which was nice.

We all wave to each other and do Xmas cards which is a nice balance, friendly but don’t have any of the CFery I’ve seen on old threads about neighbours dropping round whenever they like.

There’s only 4 houses on my street (sleepy little cul de sac). We all know each other and exchange conversation when the opportunity arises, send Christmas cards and the like.

The ones we talk to maybe once or so a week are our immediate NDN, we know their jobs, about their grandchildren etc.

I have one amazing set of neighbors and then not very close to anyone else. My next door neighbours are always happy to help, we have BBQs together, chat over the fence, I have looked after their dog etc. I also have a vague neighbour whose house I park near - lovely old chap, we always have a good matter if we see each other. He’s very independent seeming so I have never got his shopping or anything as though he’s nearly 90, he still drives.

We moved recently. Have got to know one side a bit, other side I take in parcels for and say good morning but that's about it.

Nope, don’t even know their names. Will smile and say hello but that’s it. I’m happy with it, can’t think of much worse than a suffocating ‘neighbourly’ street where everyone is up in each other’s business and you come home to people who want to see you instead of home being your peaceful place.

Yes, we know everyone on our side and many of the people behind us. We have regular block parties (3 or 4 a year), monthly wine nights for us women (host rotates) and lots of pop-up, impromptu parties. We love this place; all the kids run round together in a group, it’s like my childhood neighborhood. Community is so important to me, I couldn’t bear to live somewhere where we didn’t have a relationship with the people around us other than a quick wave as they drive past.

No. The NDN was a cantankerous sod when we first moved in. Took an instant disliking to us for reasons unknown, started banging on the walls and blowing some sort of loud horn through my DD’s bedroom wall if she ever woke in the night. We’re not an overly noisy family by any stretch, just had tiny DC at the time. One time we were having wooden flooring fit in a bedroom, the guy was just finishing up at 6:30pm and the NDN came round to shout and scream at us for ‘keeping him awake’ . We don’t talk to him and he is referred to as Mr Grumpy.

I don’t know the neighbours on the other side but we regularly take parcels in for one another and their DC sometimes chat to mine over the fence.

Not really. I know their names, we're on good terms, have a short chat very occasionally, do the usual neighbourly small favours both ways (taking parcels, moving bins off the road etc), but I wouldn't say we personally really know them. And of course we know about their lives somewhat, what with hearing normal life stuff through the walls... They seem like nice, normal people, though.

We've got new neighbours on one side who are really friendly and have invited us to a bbq in a couple of weeks which is great. There's a single Dad on the other side with a teenage son and I chat to him now and again but don't see him very often. Say hello to everyone else but don't know them. I work long hours so not home much, and kids are older so don't play out.

I live in a block of 12 flats over 3 floors. Ive met the neighbours on the same floor as me and the one directly above me, plus another one from upstairs but not sure which flat. But I wouldn’t say I know them, it’s only ever been chance meetings when we’ve happened to pass.

Growing up we knew the neighbours on both sides and over the road, one set have since died, the other two sets are still my mums neighbours. They have spare keys, take in parcels, and chat if they meet in the street but aren’t what I would call friends.

People give keys to their house to neighbours who aren’t actual close friends, they’re just people who happen to live next door? Seriously, is this a thing!?

Fortunately we have v friendly neighbours who have patiently invited everyone round twice yearly for many years for boozy get together. We are now on friendly terms with the whole neighbourhood. So have your street party OP but be prepRed to have to keep at it for many years.

Don't know any of mine. Not even their names. No hellos either. Been here 3 years

Yes but that’s because it’s my dad and my cousin!
I know two others out of the hamlet of 10 or so houses and would say/wave hello to the rest.

We know and like all our neighbours. We look out for each other's property when on holiday, share activities, socialise and party at New Year etc. It feels safe and is fun - not a gossipy crowd, just a fun bunch.

We know a lot of the neighbours. We remarked earlier that it was a little like "Pleasantville" this morning with the sun and stopping to chat to everyone at the end of drives. Only popped out for milk! It took a while to establish but if you have been there 10 years i'm guessing that it's just not the culture of your neighbourhood.

We're in a cul de sac. Our neighbours on one side we have swapped keys with and look after each other's houses / cats if we're away. They're lovely. A generation ahead of us and they really welcomed us when we arrived.

Neighbours the other side are equally great but very elderly so I wouldn't impose the same. When it was really snowy I checked in on them and we often chat.

I know the names and talk to four or five other families on the street.

We became really good mates with our neighbours at our old flat and we are now godparents to each other's children.

walkingonaflashingbeam I'm away just now and my next door neighbour has my keys to check on the house and do the curtains morning and night. We're not especially close but do this when the other is on holiday.

I know all the people in my street to talk to but we don't socialise regularly.

The next door neighbour on the other side is lovely too, we often chat over the fence like a Les Dawson sketch I'm northern and large bosommed 😂