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AIBU bloody “dog people”

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mumof2exhausted · 03/06/2018 17:05

Ok so I know there are some decent, responsible dog people out there but AIBU to say that there are some absolute arseholes who genuinely don’t seem to understand that not everyone loves dogs?? My 4 year old was recently bitten by a random dog so understandably is little nervous around them. A huge dog has just ran after him in the park (double the size of him) and he was petrified. Dog obviously thought he was playing game of chase. I don’t blame the dogs, I blame the owners. They didn’t call him off immediately just laughed and shouted “oh he’s just being friendly”. This happens all the time. Another big dog jumped up and pushed over my 2 year old couple of weeks ago. And no sorry or anything. Again a “he’s just being friendly ha ha” and off they walked without so much as a backwards glance to check my crying 2 year old was ok. I don’t have a dog but if I did and this happened I would be mortified and would apologise immediately and dog would go straight on a lead. Nearly lost my shit today with the owners but honestly don’t think they would have even cared.

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mrcharlie · 08/06/2018 23:59

Extended family that we have grown closer too over the past few years and often spend days out with, recently got a dog. It's ruined everything. The dog now tags along on every outing, dictates where we sit on a beach (yep, the shitty ugly end away from all cafes, toilets etc, the dog dictates where we can eat as most eateries don't allow dogs, in short it's spoiled things and we now find ourselves making excuses to opt out as we miss so much of the things we took for granted before - it's our family time as well you know.

Bananarama12 · 09/06/2018 00:02

WELL I FUCKING ADORE DOGS!

If you don't like dogs there's something wrong with your soul.

So screw you, go turn your noses up at something else.

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MsAdorabelleDearheartVonLipwig · 09/06/2018 00:03

A stinky home?
Nope. And I’ve asked people.

Being slobbered on?
Nope. My children were slobbery babies though. And were sick. The dog, not so much.

Spending 15 years picking up shit in a bag?
Well sometimes, but honestly, you get used to it. We live very rurally and my dog is a private pooer, he likes to run and hide in a ditch to poo and I’m not picking it up there, no one’s even going to see it. When you’ve had kids and had to deal with vomit, diahhroea etc a shit in a bag presents no problems.

De-fleaing our home?
Never had a flea infestation. He has the occasional drops from the vet which sort that out, never actually seen a flea on him.

Hair all over our clothes?
Yeah, I’ll give you that one. You do get used to brushing the odd hair off here and there.

Money?
Er, what money? Cost to us? Comparable to any thing else you care to have in your life. Or do you mean that you think that dogs chew money up too?

Freedom to travel at a whim? Stay out late?
He doesn’t melt when left at home for a few hours. Grin If we go away for longer he goes to the lovely kennels in the next village. My children are more of a tie than the dog is, I can’t take them out of bloody school.

A quiet peaceful home?
Well, yes. Confused What do you think dogs do all day? Bark repeatedly? Mine seems to spend most of the day asleep.

Have you actually known any dogs or are you reading too many stereotypes?

mrcharlie · 09/06/2018 00:06

Just to add...
We sold our caravan last year as we were sick to death of being clumped together with dog owners.
Last year the tent next to us had 5 dogs...five!!
The caravan on the opposite side had 2 Rottweilers that were extremely territorial and then would you believe another tent arrived across from us with 3 dogs!!
We asked tone moved to a different pitch, but the site was full. So we cut the trip short and left 2 days early!!
We were so pissed off we sold the caravan shortly afterwards.

Bananarama12 · 09/06/2018 00:06

A DOG has made you think about things you took for granted mrcharlie that's pathetic, sorry.

Bananarama12 · 09/06/2018 00:10

Aww mrcharlie I'd be in heaven.

aaronburr · 09/06/2018 00:18

If you don't like dogs there's something wrong with your soul.

I think the man who told my frightened child not to worry as his dog had just eaten another child had something wrong with his soul.

aaronburr · 09/06/2018 00:20

A stinky home?
Nope. And I’ve asked people.

People aren't going to be honest! All doggy houses smell. As a non dog owner I can assure you they do.

IslaBoots · 09/06/2018 00:41

People aren't going to be honest! All doggy houses smell. As a non dog owner I can assure you they do

Do you have anything positive to contribute towards owning a dog Aaron? Or are you intent on being a dog hater?

Do you think your ds gets his fear of dogs from you? Go on... try to convince us he doesn't.. 🙄😏

Newerversion · 09/06/2018 00:43

I have been in plenty of dog owning home that don’t smell.

aaronburr · 09/06/2018 07:15

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reallyanotherone · 09/06/2018 09:28

I have been in plenty of dog owning home that don’t smell

Me also. Likely we will be told it’s because we have become nose- blind, like the people who don’t shower 3 times a day, and we just can’t smell dogs anymore.

I didn’t have a dog for 20 years. Don’t think i met a stinky dog home once. Dh smells and sheds worse than my very small non shedding breed.

binglyboo · 09/06/2018 09:29

Whereas you @aaronburr seem delightful Hmm

RLOU88 · 09/06/2018 09:36

Let’s just all agree to disagree ?
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Newerversion · 09/06/2018 09:36

aaronburr, I believe your namesake gave some rather good advice that it seems you could do with following.

MsAdorabelleDearheartVonLipwig · 09/06/2018 09:38

Most of you are nasty, selfish, entitled pieces of shit. You are a good example.

You cheeky fucker! Shock

Slanetylor · 09/06/2018 09:39

Can we stop comparing dogs with children though. If your children are too much of a burden for you, that’s very sad. But they are people. They are not genetically engineered animals designed for human pleasure.
If your friend gets a dog and can no longer do all the things you did as a group, you’re perfectly entitled to spend more time apart doing the things you love.

AuntyJackiesBrothersSistersBoy · 09/06/2018 09:53

@Arron. You seem aggressive. Very stressed about this. You seem like the kind of person who rants and raves in public. I met one the other day who got all irate at my dog barking at him from the other side of the road. She (my dog) obviously felt very uneasy about him before he even spoke. Her ears and tail went down and she started a low growl/bark. I’ve no idea why then he started one the “you need to control your dog”. Whenever we see him, she stops dead on the pavement and refuses to move forward. (Probably got his wife buried under the patio, or somesuch)

Chocolatecoffeeaddict · 09/06/2018 09:59

yanbu, I hate this. Was on the park the other day with the kids. A huge St Bernard came over went rooting round in the pram threw baby's blanket on the floor, took some food out the pram that we'd brought for our picnic and ate it. The rest we couldn't eat because it's mouth had been all over it.
The owner came over to get the dog, saw what it had done and never even apologised. I shouted back " you need to keep an eye on your dog. You can't let it do that".

ChardonnaysPrettySister · 09/06/2018 10:15

Most of you are nasty, selfish, entitled pieces of shit. You are a good example.

You seem such a considerate and loving person, Aaron.

Go stroke a dog, it helps with stress.

Lethaldrizzle · 09/06/2018 10:26

I quite like dogs - I just wish that I could walk my kids to school without having to worry about dog shit everywhere. And those people who say dogs are better than humans baloney eg - they are loyal, non-judgemental and don't talk back to you! That's cos they're a freaking dog

aaronburr · 09/06/2018 10:48

Yes I'm stressed. My DD has a real fear, it affects us every time we leave the house and very few dog owners (of the off lead variety) care.

I'm having a rant on here, I am always calm in public, I have to be or it would make it worse for DD. The only time when I have not remained calm was when that idiot said his dog had just eaten another child.

justilou1 · 09/06/2018 10:53

I have a giant dog that looks like a bloody big wolf and behaves like a giant chicken. While she loves people, she is terrified of dogs. (And cats, and birds, etc....) She is the nerd dog that gets bullied and picked on and attacked by dogs of all sizes from pitbulls to dachshunds. Because she's scared of dogs, she can be a bit reactionary when out walking - but I am a responsible dog owner. I have worked closely with a behaviouralist, and she is very well-trained. I never take her off-lead in public, and I use a nose harness on her so that on-coming Nervous-Nellies don't panic (and panic her in return). It allows her to defend herself if required, but people think it is like a muzzle and aren't scared of her with it on. (Plus she can't pull me around with it - she's very strong!) I totally understand why people are nervous around dogs - especially those who haven't grown up around them and can't "read" them, but I don't understand how they can't comprehend that their own behaviour affects that of the dog as well. (Also, I loathe standing in dog shit, so I have never, ever left one behind either... It's not that hard to carry a couple of plastic bags around, and I have been known to forcibly "donate" them to people who claim to not have any with them as an excuse!!!)

RLOU88 · 09/06/2018 11:02

@Aaron
you’re not being stressed, you’re being crazy. Over 25% of people in the UK have a dog, are you honestly saying MOST of those people are selfish, entitled pieces of shit? That’s mental! Most of us are caring, lovely people who adore animals and children alike.
I hope you can help your DD through her extreme fear of dogs.

Bubbletrouble43 · 09/06/2018 11:10

Aaron seems to have experienced some pretty thoughtless dog owners to be fair. And raises some good points. It doesn't hurt to be aware that dogs do scare people, and it's not irrational or crazy. And I say that as a dog owner.