Rude dh and his bloody phone

[YetAnotherNewName1000]

I'm fed up with him! He's glued to his phone and will not even look up when we're having a conversation. I find it SO rude, especially when the bloody thing pings with a new message and i KNOW he's reading it, rather than mindlessly scrolling. I've just pointed out how rude i find it and i've had the classic 'yes but...' excuse.
I am naturally passive aggressive by nature and although i am trying not to be, my brain immediately started to make up PA strategies to get my own back.... so i've come onto MN to get some non PA ideas for coping (or perhaps some better PA ideas than i've already thought of).

Organise a lovely day out for yourself and ping him with a message and a photo telling him you are having a lovely time and he will see you when he sees you .

Probably still PA though, but that's me!

Yanbu! So rude.

Do it to him and see how he likes it.

if he, as an adult, is unable to exercise any self control then you kind of have to do it for him.

ban phones in the living room. No phones for either of you. then if he wants to look at the phone he has to get up and go outside and do it. put a basket outside the door to put them in.

I hate all this bloody technology because it keeps people from living in the real world.

Have you tried to text him

I’d text ‘oi i’m Talking, my face is up here!’

Very true....

I might try texting him...i like the 'oi my face is up here...' lol

Who's he messaging?

Text him "I'm naked and waiting" or "I've left you"

Txt ‘ yesterday afternoon was the best fun for ages - see you soon, Yetanother xx ‘

I realise i am a mere beginner on the passive aggressive scale when compared to you seasoned munsnetters

Nothing sinister in the messages, usually work related and he's so hopeless with technology that i have to help him too frequently for there to be anything suspicious going on. The only thing i could do is switch off the wifi, that would confound him!

Message him a filthy photo of you and tell him next time he leaves his phone for an hour he gets the real thing.

Proves a point and makes it a bit of fun for everyone involved rather that a fight.

Oh god mine is the same. He works on it almost 24/7 so I never know if he’s actually working or just mindlessly browsing, but it is pretty constant. It makes me sad, and funnily enough it kind of makes me spend more time on my phone because he’s not talking to me. He’s brilliant company when he’s not on his phone, and he’s a great dad, but it does wind me up sometimes when I ask him to watch our toddler for a bit and he just gives him a snack and turns the tv on and goes back to his phone.

Sorry, haven’t got much advice as I haven’t managed to crack this myself, but I’ll be following this thread with interest.

AbsolutelyBeginning

I love your suggestions.
Why do people got so worked out. He is on the phone, get dress and do something for yourself. Just because you are married, does not meant that you are joined at the hip.
If he wants to spend his weekend on the phone, I will definitely find something to do and see him on my return.
You wanna bet, he will soon get the message.

I have the same problem. Dh comes home and is always either on his pad or phone. When I say something he replies with 'oh dear' and hasn't heard a word I have said. I can't help you either as it's been going on for 2 years. I have to tell him to give me attention and get off his bloody pad!!! So feel your pain lol

I have the same problem. Dh comes home and is always either on his pad or phone. When I say something he replies with 'oh dear' and hasn't heard a word I have said. I can't help you either as it's been going on for 2 years. I have to tell him to give me attention and get off his bloody pad!!! So feel your pain lol

Wondertweak that's it really, i feel sad that he'd rather be mindlessly scrolling through facebook, or reading an incoming message than take an active part in a conversation. I suppose i just miss the chat that we used to have.
Marjorie25 i'm not sure where i've said we must be 'joined at the hip' at all times, i just find it rude (and sad) that partway through a conversation, his eyes drift to his phone and is then only half listening and no longer participating.
To be honest if i went out every time it happened, i'd have to permanently leave home and that seems a bit of a 'sledge hammer to crack a nut' approach.
Not sure i like the idea of tempting him to 'pay attention' by sending risqué pics and promising him more...surely it's just basic good manners to listen when you are having a conversation.