I have this friend I met at Uni about 5 years ago, we've remained friends but lately I find myself feeling frustrated. I'm about to marry and have a little girl with my fiance, while at Uni as a "mature student" (I was 24) I worked to support myself, my flat and my car. This friend has never held down a job in her life and still lives at home.
The thing that set me off was this friend asking me if she could bring someone to the wedding - shes not dating she just wants to bring some girl shes mates with. I didn't think much of it at the time but Ive slowly felt more and more irritated by it and feel its actually quite rude, especially as we're having a fairly low key wedding, enough people she knows there and a mix of couples and singles. It would be different if it was a significant other she wanted to bring.
She hasn't ever bothered learning to drive but also refuses to get a bus so while shes always asking when I'm free to meet up, it's always based on me driving to pick her up and then going somewhere with her, and where we go is usually somewhere she wants to go. I've always gone with the flow but now i feel like its taking the p*.
She's now trying to arrange some expensive group outing involving outdoor activities, I don't want to sound like an anti social bore but if I'm going to spend money on outdoor excursions I'd much rather do it with my soon to be hubby and daughter, to give her the experiences!!
I find that the things I liked about her 5 years ago aren't there anymore as I'm no longer a student and I find it difficult to find common ground with someone who expects the world to hand her things on a plate. What have others done with this sort of thing? Is there a way to change how she treats the friendship? or should I slowly cool it off??