Ideas for 18th

[Lucky6266]

My ds turns 18 this December Christmas day and despite there been plenty of time I beginning to wonder how I can make it special he claims to not like the fuss of a party. Any ideas please.

Short break away?

It's his 18th he should do what he wants a lot of 18 year olds want to go out with friends or away in holiday rather than anything organised by parents. Have a family meal somewhere nice and let him do whatever he likes with friends.

Does he have friends with whom he's likely to want a night out with? If so, that's what he wants to do.

If not, then just think of a really nice present and have a lovely dinner and cake.

Took mine to Berlin with two of his friends and their mums. Kept it a total surprise so we all met at airport. Booked a limo to take us round the city Friday night. It was bloody amazing. For daughter a few years ago it was champagne at top f shard and weekend in London

18th parties are out of fashion these days I think because kids don't grow up with parties at home anymore. My eldest was adament a party was not cool but we went ahead anyway as we have a huge family and it was an opportunity to get together. Despite his misgivings DS1 loved it as did his friends. We hired a hall, disco etc. We are now organising party for DC number 4. Each party has been different. DS2 wanted a recreation of his childhood parties complete with adult sized bouncy castle. Being a musician he and his friends made their own music. DD1 had a dress code for hers specifying posh frocks etc. Her taste in music is not conventional but we managed to find a DJ who was into the same and played a mix of this and party tunes. It went down a storm. We are now organising DC4's party to be themed around her name.

So I would say go ahead with a celebaration even if just at home but try and personalise it to your son. Your main problem is the date. My DM has a Christmas birthday and it is a PITA to organise anything. Noone wants to attend. We have found it is better to wait till after Christmas rather than before when everyone is busy and everywhere is booked but I'm sure that you already know this.

Presumably he'll arrange his own celebrations with friends if he wants one at all so I guess it's just the family celebration you're wondering about. I think it's impossible to answer without knowing him though.

Is there some experience he'd really enjoy? A city he'd love to visit? Great restaurant? If he'd really prefer something quiet I'd definitely go for that and get him a special present.