To want a holiday :(

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I realise this is a first world problem, but with everyone going off on lonely holidays it's made me really want one. I haven't been away in three years, and haven't been away with DP for nearly six.

DP hates holidays or being away from his home comforts. Last time we went he complained all week, and now says it's a waste of money to go away. He isn't interested in cultural things and hates he heat. However, he will go abroad for 1-2 nights for his hobby he says it's different because he's going for a purpose and it's only a short time and cheap etc. I agree money needs to be thought about sensibly as we are trying to buy a house, but we have been saving well....

I don't really have any friends I'm close enough to go with, or any suitable family members. I don't fancy going alone either. I'm starting to feel quite sad! Should o just shut up and realise holidays are luxuries I can't have? I would even go somewhere in the uk!

Lovely holidays not lonely!

who did you go away with three years ago?

@NotSuchASmugMarriedNow1 my dad and sister and it was a disaster!

What's his hobby? Could you go somewhere where he could do his thing and you do yours? Do you spend time together during annual leave?

Either go without him, or try to talk him into city breaks. Find something he would really fancy/be interested in, then get out there.
He has a right not to want to holiday. He doesn’t have the right to stop you holidaying.

Can’t you join him on the hobby beaks and do your own thing whilst he’s doing the hobby?

Go with exodus or explore. Friend does this as dh works away loads so doesn’t always want to holiday abroad. There’s company, exciting places and you get alone time and f you want,

Could you go away with OH when he is doing his hobby, either to spectate, or do you own thing during the day and meet up with him in the evening?
Or bite the bullet, and book a weekend away for yourself. Maybe start in the UK, if you would feel more comfortable. Have a focus, so perhaps choose somewhere where you can go to a one off concert, sporting event etc so that you have a "reason" for going. Hopefully choose a place where there will be plenty for you to see/enjoy/visit/shop during the rest of your stay. There is absolutely nothing wrong with eating alone in a restaurant - lots of people do it! If you can't face it, order room service, or buy a meal from M&S/a takeaway and take it back to your room. Enjoy being able to watch what you want to watch on TV, read, have a long bath.
Don't book anywhere for too long a time at first, just enough for you to be able to test the water.

Going on holiday on your own is absolute heaven.....

I've learnt that (even in a relationship) at times if you wait for someone to want to visit the same places as you you'll be waiting for eternity. Do it alone. I regularly holiday solo and it's so liberating and actually quite fun! Can do what you like when you like. also the best thing is you can actually go visit the places you want to see without waiting for someone to decide to come with.

go by yourself, or you can actually get singles tours

I quite fancy doing a solo holiday, as dp is not great holiday company

I'm going away on my own in 8 days. It's not because my dh hates holidaying or anything like that, I just need a break and am having one, no dh or children! I'd highly recommend it! I'm normally a boring, middle aged sahm with very few friends but I actually feel rather liberated over this! I'm going to drink alcohol on the plane (which I never normally get to do because I have children in tow) read an actual book instead of the school newsletter and look after only myself, well it won't even be me looking after me when I'm in the spa and ordering room service! And I don't feel sorry about it one bit

Go. And have fun.