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AIBU to think you shouldn't be able to get away with this

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stopit20 · 02/06/2018 18:28

For over a year now I've been completely harassed by the woman that my ex had an affair with. There has been 4 police cases about it and she's been warned multiple times to stop but police wont take it seriously. It started with threats and constant horrible messages to me until the police managed to step in and stop the direct stuff. The problem is since then she's posting my full name, daughters name and picture alongside horrible allegations online publicly for the whole world to see on twitter as she knows she can get away with it as long as its not directly to me.

Things stepped up a notch this week when I had police come round because of a false report that was made to the NSPCC saying that I sexually abuse my child, keep weapons lying around, take drugs around her and generally neglect her. Of course when they visited they could see everything was fine. I KNOW its her because she's been posting this stuff online for a long time and used it as blackmail only a few weeks before.

I contacted the police once again after this happened and they said they cant do anything as she's not doing anything wrong. Which is the same thing that they have said ever since she stopped messaging directly.

Does this seem right? How is it ok to be continuously slander someone online, stalk them, threaten them, send slanderous messages to everyone I know, send police round and try and ruin their livelihood (I need an online presence for my work)

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rosesandflowers · 02/06/2018 18:34

I really wouldn't know in legal terms. Hopefully there's some lawyers on here.

I would think slander was a criminal offence. Especially slander that meant the NSPCC turned up.

Can you apply for a restraining order?

Dsc1907 · 02/06/2018 18:38

The police are wrong, and useless by the sound of it.

Try contacting the national stalking helpline www.suzylamplugh.org/Pages/Category/national-stalking-helpline

They were able to explain my options to me and what to do, and it meant I could go back to the police and get them to deal with it the way they should have done in the first place.

Paladin Service is another you could try.

Dsc1907 · 02/06/2018 18:41

Some police forces / individuals within them can be a bit shit at their response to course of conduct offences. You have to emphasise the pattern of behaviour when calling 101.

If you're not already, keep a diary of everything that's going on.

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