To want to move away

[Butterflykissess]

A couple of years ago my brothers partner made a referral about me to social services (totally malicious and made up and was closed without further action i can't stress that enough) it was completely out of the blue as I have never had any issues with her! We are not even close and I rarely see her. t he only thing is she and my sister were very close then fell out and stopped speaking. Anyway my brother and mum both refused to believe it was her, and instead said it was my sister framing her (due to the fall out) anyway I decided to go nc with my mum and brother and haven't spoken to them in over a year. However I always see my mum in the local area and it's starting to annoy me as I don't really want the constant bumping into her. Today my dad called me to let me k now that my mum said she had witnessed me telling my son off in the street (over a month ago!) Seems everything I do it reported back and I'm not sure why I'm such a bit topic to them. I would like to move away but wouldn't know where to start as everyone i know l lives here so I would literally be starting again with no one. It would also mean removing my kids from their school . Has anyone moved away and started from fresh? Aibu to want to do this?

No one moved away and started again?

Hi,
I have! And it was the best thing I’ve ever done.
Not a similar situation to yours but my DP and family didn’t get on, and someone (suspected our landlord as we were in a row over the house and deposit which we eventually won) had maliciously reported us to SS which like you was unfounded. We moved closer to the city centre / DP’s work and didn’t know anyone.
Flash forward one year. I’ve made some best friends for life, it hasn’t affected my relationship with family or friends back home at all, I’ve landed my dream job, my son is more settled than ever, we do a different activity every day that I’m not working (where I live is extremely community and family orientated) and DP is just about to get promoted because he has shown initiative by doing so much overtime (due to being closer to work so cutting out a 2h commute)
DO. IT.

I moved away after being the most gossiped about woman where I lived!!
No regrets.

Do it op, you only get one life.

No experience of this, but I think I would feel the same - it must be awful.

I'd write a list of Pros & Cons (you've probably already done this).

If the only pros would be not bumping into your parents, and not having to look over your shoulder when you're out in the locality, would that be worth you & the DCs having to find new friends/job/schools/any clubs & activities for your DCs & totally starting from scratch?

If you're thinking of moving to the next town, it wouldn't be so daunting as you could still maintain friendships for you all. If your DCs are young it will be much easier than if they are KS2/3/4 or older.

If you don't have to worry about working & are renting, I think that would make things slightly easier still.

I knew nobody where we moved to, had never even been to the area!!Kids moved school also, no problem at all. Viewed a rental in near darkness and signed up!!
If you are in my areas op give me a ring!! Still don't know anyone 3 years on, tbf I am a bit of a loner but nice to chat sometimes!!