Backstory....hubby of 9 years left 2 years ago to live with someone else. We had spent 8 months going to Relate. Thought we had sorted stuff but knew we needed to keep working...Relate ended end of Feb...by April he was having online affair ..by May they were planning to leave their spouses in the summer holidays when she was flying back to her home village from living in Norway past 30 years. He left me 2 weeks before she flew over & I found all this out once she arrived.
I tried to divorce him that summer but wanted to discuss stuff with him first...he refused to talk to me & acted like he was the injured party.
So 2 years on...I am going ahead with the divorce. He says he doesn't want anything from our house. I bought it before I met him but know he's entitled to some as I married him. Our 9 year old lives with me. He pays minimum maintenance as only works part time. When we were together he was on long term sick with anxiety, when he did work he couple of shifts as a carer a week. When there was an opportunity to do more shifts he didnt take it.
There are a lot of debts, which I pay. By time we pay debts & halve what is left of equity I could owe him maybe a couple of thousand.
Since he left he has bought his dad's house...I believe it's in his name but know for def.. could be joint, or just hers.
If it is his name or joint am I right in thinking it's a marital asset?
I don't want any of it....but thought it might come in useful if he tries to take any of my house. My house us in my name & I've alwsys paid mortgage & all bills. He paid for the car, which he took. At certain times we had a car each & then I paid for mine.
So AIBU to say I don't want to give him anything from this house? I'd have to sell up & downsize to do it but still need 3 beds as adult autistic son is living with me now.
Ex doesn't need the money as his gf is well off... but it's about the principle.. .& also the control. (He still tries to control me at times)
Sorry this is so long. Thanks for reading.