Free time with a baby

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My husband wants to play on his play for six hours straight, every Sunday as playing online he gets to "socialise" with his friends. We have an almost one year old and during this time he behaves like he is out of the house and ignores me and baby.

AIBU to say I want six hours socialising time, childfree with my friends on a Saturday?

The issue is, if I do so, we will have no family time as a 3 as we both work full time. I am not particularly bothered about going out on a Saturday with my friends but I'm fed up of this set up being so one-sided

Your husband needs to grow up. Grown ass men who are husbands and fathers don’t get 312hours (13 full days) a year to play with their toys.

THANK YOU!!

He sounds very selfish. Wanting a whole day to himself is not on every week. An hour or so might be ok. A weekday evening could work? If he won’t cut back, I would take the equivalent just to show him what he’s doing.

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I would take the equivalent just to show him what he’s doing.

I wouldn’t trust him not to ignore the baby and spend Saturday gaming too. He’s a child.

100% not on. Grrr at this. Annoyed on your behalf.

My DH likes gaming too but as soon as DS was born he understood that going forward it was evenings and naptimes only and only once housework was done and we had spent some time as a couple!

I understand needing some time to yourself (both of you) but 6 hours is too much every weekend. DH and I have one lie in each and have time to ourselves until 11am at the weekend. Unless we have other things planned. It means we still get family time from 11am both days. I usually take DD swimming or to a group in the morning I get up early with her so that she is getting some entertainment.

I fully agree, it's way to much "free time"

Go out all day today and take the play station with you. At least that way he can’t get distracted. See if he likes that. What is it with these manchildren, who think the world revolves around them? I do wonder if they were overindulged as children.

Can't he do this a couple of evenings a week instead? It's not the hours that would bother me it's the fact he's doing it while you're in sole charge of the baby. If the baby was asleep it might be different.

Apparently not as his friends can't do weekdays. That's not my issue, nor is it our child's issue but he reckons I'm just being awkward and unreasonable because I "don't like the PlayStation"

No, I want you to grow up.

He certainly does need to grow up! Time for serious words. When you have a baby, you are no longer top priority. You can't sit and ignore your family for 6 hours straight on a Sunday (!!) while you play computer games with your sad little friends. Ffs, manchildren piss me off.

My husband loves loved his Xbox. Our son is 3.5 now. I could count on one hand the number of times he's played on it in the past 3.5 yrs. There just isn't time to do it anymore!

Why not have 2 evenings of 3h?

6h in the middle of the day is daft. Do his mates not have DC?

No they don't...

He's in a huff that I'm going out today and told him not to come

I hope you’re leaving the baby and taking the x box.

He'd rather play with his toy than his actual baby, who won't be a baby for long?? He's being a dick!

What a total manchild.

I'd insist on the six hours to yourself for a few weeks just to make him realise he's taking the piss. I'm sure he'll change his mind when he has to spend all that time solo parenting.

I'd be passive aggressively singing select lines from "the cat's in the cradle" (ok not really but it does sound like that!)

My DH used to LOVE his PlayStation. DD1 is now almost four and I don’t think he’s played it more than twice her whole life and he eventually sold it last year because it was just gathering dust. Tell him to get a grip and then send it to Music Magpie and get some cash for a nice family day out.

Why does it have to be 6 hours every Sunday? Selfish prick.