To be annoyed at my friend?

[DrowningEveryDay]

So I have just finished my masters degree and I will be graduating next month.

My friend is always commenting that I’m a bum and I’m not doing anything and I have so much time.

He always do this randomly. And this makes me annoyed.

For context, I migrated to a new country with my husband four years ago. My qualifications were not transferrable so the first two years I tried several things, I trained to be a personal carer and a medical receptionist. I worked as a medical receptionist for a few months. This friend also said snide remarks disguised as jokes about me immigrating and just being a carer/receptionist.

After two years I got a scholarship for a masters degree and also worked in a prestigious research lab as an intern. He did not say anything.

Now that I’m out of school and out of work again he started making snide remarks about me having “so much time.” He makes this everytime he can’t hold his own in a banter.

What would you do?

I’ve been looking for part time work, I just haven’t landed one. I have no retail experience, I’m applying to some receptionist jobs but haven’t gotten one.

I have a graduate position that starts early January.

Well done on finding your graduate post. In the meantime, ditch that 'friend' who seems more of an enemy. No-one needs people like that around them. All he will do is bring you down.

Yeah, ditch’em!

Congratulations on your masters!

Thanks, ladies. Just so annoying. He’s behaving like a catty bitch. And I just want to be sure I am not being overly sensitive.

He’s been my friend for a very long time.

Tell him to fuck off. He sounds like a royal pain in the arse!

If you don't want to drop him you could try saying something like, "Is that a problem for you?"

Someone who deliberately makes catty remarks to make you feel bad is not your friend.

Next time use the MN classic 'did you mean to be so rude? I've moved countries retrained , competed a masters and secured a graduate position what have you been doing?'

He's jealous of your commitment and success, he's not a friend op no matter how long he's been falsely presenting himself as.

What FASH said is perfect!!

He's not happy with his own life, so has a chip on his shoulder about yours.

Friends encourage and help up. Real friends don't bring you down.
I really hope you get a fantastic job and have a great life.
You've done so well. Congratulations

He’s not a friend.

Congratulations on your new job, you aren't being over sensitive, maybe he is jealous of your success?

I would dump him, he sounds jealous of yiu, and not a good friend.

If you haven't already, try being straight and honest with him. I know it's not easy but next remark, just say 'look John, every time my life comes up you make a disparaging remark. Perhaps you don't realise you are doing it & think it's banter but it comes across as bitchy & I find it really disrespectful. A friend should support & encourage, but lately it feels like you've just tried to make me feel bad about myself. Do you see what I mean?

Thank you everyone. It just seems so unnecessary. If you get this kind of putting down from your friends, then why do you need enemies for?

I have decided to keep contact to a minimum and if this person attempts again, then I will be straight and honest with him.

I need to stop being a wuss.

He doesn't sound like a friend to me.

I'm annoyed again because I discussed this with a common friend and he said maybe my period is coming.

He is no friend what he is a negative betty who feels bad about his own life so tries to make others feel shit.
I would distance myself you don't need this type of negative energy around you

Ditch the common friend too. What a disgusting thing to say.