Another thread from me!
Recently Ive had contact via fb from a long lost uncle. He is my mums brother.
Previous history, I have had NC with my mum for 4 yrs. She is a violent abusive person. I, and my siblings,went into care. I was 13 at the time. The others were younger. Despite everything, and due to my father being deceased, I have tried to have a relationship with my DM. But she is still an angry violent lady.
2018...my Uncle makes contact. Wants to get to know his long lost family. He is in contact with my DM. Anyway, we have a few convos via fb. I keep things very casual and on a need to know basis. After a few days he starts msg'ing me constantly about my DM. It goes like this:
I should forgive her
She is a victim too and not responsible for her actions
I am obv a hard hearted person
How can I keep her grandchildren from her?
This was within 3 days of contact (30 yrs of non).
He then started contacting my friends on fb. Saying....they needed to make me see sense and realise what im doing is wrong. He couldnt see my friends list, no one can, he msg people who either liked or commented on my status's. He then found my sister via these comments and said he was gonna msg her. I told him no bloody way. (She isnt doing great, she self harms due to sexual abuse she suffered). He told me he would do what he likes. Hes our uncle and knows whats best!!!!!
Thankfully I had told my sister about him (ie contactng me ) and due to her suspicious nature she blocked him before he could even contact her.
Final straw...i refused to respond to his msgs and he then contacted my DP telling him if he is a man he will deal with me and sort me out. Our DC's have a right to know their family and my DM isnt guilty of anything because she too is a victim so it negates her actions. He believes that whatever she does its due to circumstance and we must forgive. That night we both blocked him.
Anyway, he is pestering anyone he can. AIBU to report him?