To ask how long 2 kids can share a room for

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We have 2 boys, a 3yo and a baby who will still be in our room for awhile yet. They will eventually share a double room. The plan is to eventually extend so they can have their own room but we won’t be able to afford that for a long time yet.

AIBU to think they can probably share for 5-10 years? How old are DCs generally before they want their own space?

we are very well aware that our eldest needs their own room soon.

They don’t “need” their own room. It would be preferable, yes, but they don’t need it.

Well Lottie, FYI yes he does need his own room because he is ND and needs a quiet space to retreat to. Off you fuck.

Sausagedogs, I don't think your response was cavalier! My comment was aimed more at posters such as lottie.

We have a 3 bed house, and, DH and 2 girls. We're having both DDs share a room even though they don't technically need to, so we can have the 3rd room as an office - which will be a playroom/dressing room/teenage 'wo-man cave' in the future

They can share until they leave home if they are the same sex

It depends. Obviously if there's no other choice they have to make do but it can be difficult depending on the age gap. For example, I'm currently working with a 16 year old who is doing his GCSE's and is sharing with his younger brother who is still in primary school and doesn't understand that he needs peace and quiet to study.

Personally I don't see a problem with children, sharing a room provided that they're close in age. I shared with my sisters, but there was 11 and 9 years between us. Sometimes I just wanted them to be quiet, but they would just be normal children. andveryloud

I shared with dsis until i left home at 19.

My 19 and 16 yos share a room. And in the other room are my 14 yo DTs and 10 yo.

They really only use their rooms for sleeping, except 19 yo who prefers to spend time alone listening to music.

There's no law stating kids can't share a room at any age and that applies to owning your home AND social housing . .why do people get so confused about that! It's a policy with social housing that your are entitled to an extra room it that it suddenly because against the law to share . You certainly wouldn't get priority in my council for 2 siblings of the opposite sex sharing rooms.

My 3 brothers shared until 2 eldest went off to uni. I shared with one brother until he was 12 and I was 6. I also shared a double bed with my younger sister when she was a toddler and I was a pre teen. She used to dig her toenails into my shins!

@funinthesun18 you’re definitely classed as overcrowded though, I hope you’re on the list for a bigger house

Until you have another room

My nephews (6 years apart) shared until they left home and are still best friends.

We've got 5 dc and 3 bedrooms, so until they leave home here.
The last 2 can have a room each. Maybe. Or maybe I'll make it an Xbox room and then I'll get peace in the living room.

Obviously they can share for as long as they need to.

But ime it's harder once one of them their teens, even if they're the same sex. They start to want more privacy and to have a lie in at the weekend when the younger one is still an early riser.

Btw, there are no "laws" about mixed sex sharing in council housing. It's simply that you're entitled to go on the list for a bigger place if you've got a boy and a girl aged over 10 sharing. Doesn't mean you'll get one though. Some children spend their whole childhoods sharing with opposite sex siblings. It's not illegal.

DP shared with his brother until he moved out at 18. Technically, they shared with their 2 sisters as well, but his dad built a partition wall along the middle. The boys had to walk through their little sisters' room to get to theirs, and all 4 slept in bunk beds.

KirstenRaymonde we are on the list. Maybe when ds1 is 10 in 3 years time we'll have more of a shot of being offered one.

My boy and girl shared until they were 12 and 9 with no problems and I think it's the main reason why they're still so close even though they're now teenagers, I moved them into a big double room at one point but they made it so messy and I was cramped in the small room so I moved them into bunk beds in the small room and they loved it.

Once they have their own rooms and theyre teenagers you rarely get to see them anymore 😂

Until one of them has a girlfriend/boyfriend who might stay overnight?
So like somewhere between 16 and never, depending on your feelings on that!

funinthesun18 Are you just going to keep having babies until the council give you a bigger house?
You've admitted you are overcrowded as it is, stop adding to the problem.

I shared a room with my sister (2 years younger) until I left home at 18 (and to this day if we're both at home without partners!). I'm 31 so it's not that long ago, and it was very common amongst my friends.

Shared with my dsis until I was 20.

CrochetBelle

That wasn't the plan, no. But seeing as it's none of your business either way, off you fuck .

I shared with DB until aged 10..then shared with DM until I was 17 (lived in 3 bed house with DGP)..my own DC ..3 bed house, the 2 boys shared..15 months apart in age and DD had boxroom...

BlueBug45

They can share until they leave home if they are the same sex. It's only recently that families feel that each child of the same gender needs to be given their own room.

In fact getting them to share may help them leave home earlier.
this sadly every child having their own room is a new entitled snowflake thing along with having a playroomi think it’s only a issue if the children are of simar age and same sex

So I would say once they get to puberty then you need to move if you can saying that

My nan lived in a two bedroom house with 6 of them and none was harmed