Child maintenance and access

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I didn't think I was being U but my ex is so Adamant that I am in the wrong. He has not seen the the DC for 2 yrs. It had previously been to court but he didn't turn up. I have never had any maintenance.

Sorry unsure how much back history to provide.

Anyway he says he won't pay maintenance and keeps ignoring their letters. He is living with a girlfriend with 4DC and 1 on the way. Apparently he told me he planned the last 1.

So because he said he has no money and no access atm does that mean I should stop asking him to pay?

I'd be happy with £10 a week ffs. Anything. Should I just give up?

go through the cms ?

He ignores it and it hasn't been enforced yet. I applied for the 3rd option of collect and pay but he is not CO operating and he said he would rather move jobs, get cash in hand than pay me.

Go through the CMS, ask them to collect the money. Don't engage with him. Good luck

Sorry cross post

No you not stop asking him to pay.
HE had a child and HE has to help support it.
Keep on to the CMS and ensure they follow through.
He who shouts loudest..... might not help but don't stop pushing them.
Sounds you are well rid of that little gem!!??

He won't be paying you. He'll be paying his contribution to his children's upkeep.

Keep chasing him through the CMS, and tell them about his threats to work cash in hand. As pp has said, don't engage with him.

Don’t give up. His threats are stupid as he’s not paying anything now anyway, he has nothing to take away. This is literally the worst kind of man, pursue as long as you can he should be supporting his child.

And access has nothing to do with it, so ignore that

Thank you. He is still adamant it is all me and that the reason he doesn't pay anything is because of me being unreasonable.

Keep trying, he absolutely should be supporting his children. That said, I'm in the same position - my ex quit his job so he wouldn't have to pay me anything. It's exhausting, isn't it?

Just let the CSA deal with him. I’d also go no contact with him. Block him on everything

And thank your lucky stars that he isn’t interested in seeing your kids. Sometimes it is a blessing

He can be adamant everything is all your fault til the cows come home and still he’d be wrong.
Children aren’t pay per view. Keep chipping away at CMS. Keep the messages where he tells you he’ll evade tax just so he doesn’t have to pay you, they might come in handy!

If you have a case with the CMS then you need to keep badgering them. Get your MP involved

I have printed off the conversation so I can delete and block him. Honestly don't know how I survived a 10yr relationship with this man...

This absolutely boils my piss.

Wish I could choose not to pay tax and national insurance.
Why don't the authorities take a set percentages the nrp wage like they do with emergency tax.
Then leave it up to the nrp to provide income details and claim back any overpayment.
If they leave work so be it, they get the same set percentage of their earnings deducted again at sorce.