To not discuss a choice with family?

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Hello,
My son is 3, and we should be applying for schools this year for him to start next year. My husband and I have decided to Home educate him- this has been the plan pretty much from the start. However when we have mentioned this in the past to extended family- e.g mil, there has been negative reactions- 'he HAS to go to school!'. Aibu to just not tell our families that he won't be attending school, and just wait until they realise he's not going? Or is this something that I should be explaining my reasoning for etc, like my husband says. I am just expecting the hurt 'well you never discussed it from me!' From both my dm and mil.

It's none of their business and you don't have to discuss it with anyone.

I can understand not mentioned it if you're going to get grief/pressure from them about it.

Everyone will think it is their business. And you have discussed it with your family if your husband has been involved in the decision. Wider family is different and needs a bit more arms length, well that's how I deal with them anyway!

Why aren't you putting him to school?

Maybe telling them the reason will help them understand. If they still get upset after that, ignore them.

It's absolutely none of their business. Seeing as you've had grief off them already, I wouldn't say anything, And just let them work it out themselves.

None of their business.

'Well you never discussed it with me!'

'What? Why would we? I suppose we might have talked more about it if you were the type not to interfere, but you aren't - so you have to expect that our family choices won't generally be discussed with you, we're not interested in inviting conflict. Better get used to it!'