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sister and "copying"

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Butterflykissess · 31/05/2018 23:37

I have sister who seems to think she owns certain things, so if she does it/owns it/wears it no one else is allowed to. Examples are she bought something in her house and I commented that I liked it and that I might get one and she said I wasn't allowed to! Another is she uses a certain website to buy clothes and said no one else is allowed to shop on there, they are going out type dresse s which I don't go out clubbing anyway but she said if I ever wanted to she would "let me" choose one of the dresses from there. When a friend was admiring the dresses and asking where she got them from she cut the tags out of the dresses so she wouldn't she got them from. Now the recent thing is she has use glitter wallpaper in her room (very common at the moment and I know not to everyone's taste) i wanted to do it to a wall in my house and she has said I'm "not allowed" because it's " copying " wibu to ignore her. I realise how immature this sounds but this isn't coming from a 30 yr old woman.

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MyKingdomForBrie · 31/05/2018 23:38

Well if she saves you from glitter wallpaper she’s done you a favour Grin

Who cares what she says just get what you like and ignore her.

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Butterflykissess · 31/05/2018 23:42

I know people hate the glitter but it's for my dds room who loves everything sparkly and princessy. You would think she would be ok with her niece having it but no!

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user1473878824 · 31/05/2018 23:43

Mental. But also YABU for wanting glitter wallpaper which I would dispute is very common at the moment. Unless I was going to be snobby.

Maelstrop · 31/05/2018 23:45

Is she 5?! Ignore her, she’s being absolutely ridiculous, but you know that.

Moleskinediary · 31/05/2018 23:46

Are you sure that anyone would want her clothes or decor? Its sounds very cheap and nasty niche

blaaake · 31/05/2018 23:48

She sounds like a bit of a chav (sorry) so she may be doing you a favour. However if you want the same stuff just get it, she's batshit!

KurriKurri · 31/05/2018 23:49

Ask her if she thinks she is the only person in the world who has bought the glittery wallpaper ? She sounds really silly, I'd just laugh at her and get whatever you want. She's your sister, not Queen of Fucking Everything.

Singlenotsingle · 31/05/2018 23:51

Isn't this the bit where you do the tinkly laugh and ask which planet she's living on?

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Butterflykissess · 31/05/2018 23:59

She's always been like it tbh but I was younger but as I've got older I realise how ridiculous she's being. She's banned people from several website so they don't have the same clothes as her! But like I said this was in our early 20s and I don't go clubbing so it never effected me. It was when I admired the picture in her house and she said I wasn't allowed to get it that I was like okkayy.. Now the wallpaper thing.

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Butterflykissess · 01/06/2018 00:02

She's copied the glitter wallpaper fro m a di y Facebook group (very popular on there) so she's copied it from someone to begin with but she doesn't want anyone she knows personally to have the same things .

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e1y1 · 01/06/2018 00:03

Just say “I’m sorry, I didn’t realise YOU own particular items of clothing/ornaments/wallpaper etc”.

Be no good for business to just have one person shopping there.

Ignore her. Completely.

e1y1 · 01/06/2018 00:06

Also, Glitter wallpaper!!! For a child’s room, only just. For my walls, I’d rather put sand in my eyes. Can’t see how she’d think it nice.

blaaake · 01/06/2018 00:12

PLEASE tell me it's 'DIY on a budget official' she's on GrinGrinGrin

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Butterflykissess · 01/06/2018 00:14

She's pretty much glittered her whole house (had to talk her out of doing it to the radiator) so she sees it as her "thing"

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Butterflykissess · 01/06/2018 00:15

Yes it is!

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KeepServingTheDrinks · 01/06/2018 00:19

It was when I admired the picture in her house and she said I wasn't allowed to get it that I was like okkayy

You want to own the same art as your sister? That would piss me off too, tbh.

HeddaGarbled · 01/06/2018 00:28

Clearly she's being unreasonable. You can get whatever you want, or your daughter wants and you don't need her permission nor even to discuss it with her.

But she does sound like a woman who just follows the latest naff trends, so I think it would be good if you could develop your own independent style.

ijustwannadance · 01/06/2018 00:32

Make a list of daft things you 'own' that she isn't allowed to copy.

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Butterflykissess · 01/06/2018 00:33

"Doesn't everyone say I like your xyz where did you get it from? " I do have my own independent style . Doesn't mean you can't admire something that someone else has. It's just fashion . She does it with everyone so it s not personal to me and I don't spend a lot of time getting the same things as her.

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thefairyfellersmasterstroke · 01/06/2018 00:37

My sister used to go nuts whenever I did anything that she had previously done, e.g. put posters on my bedroom wall, wear green eye-shadow, get my clothes at TopShop. She used to shout, "Mum! She's copying me!" And Mum would say to her, "Leave Fairy alone, she's just doing normal stuff that every teenager does".

I think your sister needs to grow up.

CherryChasingDotMuncher · 01/06/2018 00:43

Oh god I hate people like this! My SIL once refused to tell me which shampoo she uses (I complimented her on how shiny her hair was) as she didn't want me 'copying' her Hmm I said she'll probably be disappointed to know that about 10,000 other women probably use whatever she has. Pathetic childish attitude

TheMonkeyMummy · 01/06/2018 00:44

She can't ban people. She can say she doesn't like it but she isn't in control.
I wouldn't want the same as my sister anyway, as much as I love her.

Glitter wallpaper? Confused

Timeissliplingaway · 01/06/2018 00:45

I don't particularly like it when people copy things I buy but no one can ban people from buying the same things as them 😂
I would just laugh at her next time.

Copperbonnet · 01/06/2018 01:32

You are a grown woman with children, buy what the hell you want. You don’t need to ask permission.

Meanwhile stop asking your sister where she buys everything! Wallpaper, clothes, art - that would drive me bonkers.

Whyarealltheusernamestaken · 01/06/2018 01:40

Stop complimenting things like her silly glitter wallpaper and clothes she won’t tell you where they are from. Since she is enjoying the attention just remain ignorant and buy what you want