To ask your opinion about nightmare neighbours

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I've been a long time fan of the AIBU threads.

I need advice, I have unsavoury neighbours. They live above me. We did get on for a few years until one night he was beating his partner so bad she was screaming for help. Someone in the block beat me to calling the police. Police knock my door first so instantly I got the blame. Obviously they stopped talking.

It's known they use drugs, he's also got mental health issues from drug abuse (they confirmed this when we did chat)

Anyway my issue is mainly the guy. He makes snide comments to my son, calls my son a fat bastsrd, he's threatened my son by saying one day he's going to stab him. One morning I'm stood in the shower at 6am before work and the guy stands outside my window yelling about me having a washing machine on at 6am ( I didn't have it on!)after I went to work he spent an hour stamping his feet in the kitchen.....
He stands by the windows with curtains drawn but you can see he's there watching. He's also went m
Off his head at us for looking in the direction of the house..

The thing that pisses me off is he doesn't have the balls to threaten my son when others are around to hear, he's a sneaky bugger and we are struggling to get solid proof.

The woman through the wall from them had the same issue when her nephew stayed but again couldn't get proof.

I keep reporting him but his oh keeps defending him, lying saying she is there and he'd never do such a thing etc. Then she tries verbally attacking me, resorting to name calling. There has been times when I've lost my shit and said unsavoury things to them.

The council suggested mediation, sitting in the room and discussing our issues.

I've been on the waiting list forever to move and noone wants to swap because they know about my neighbours.

Just to add my son is 15 and not at school until he starts college in a few months.

I just don't know what to do!!

I don't know either but I do sympathise, they sound absolutely awful. I would seriously lose my shit. Sorry, not much help.

Not much help either but I found th e pol ice and council useless when I had nigh t mare neighbours . Accused me of "making it up to get a move " both the police and council. All I would suggested is keep trying for the mutual exchange but must be difficult if they can hear your neigh bours above .

CCTV any help in gathering evidence, deterring?

Get cctv and sound recording set up. Ask council for help with this. Keep a diary of events (you'll be asked for this in any case where action is to be taken). Wear a round your neck recorder/camera to record everything. Tell police about threats and other issues _ every time - there will be a record kept of your calls - you need to get incidents recorded. This will add to the call made by the other neighbours.

I say all this as this is what someone I know had to do to get enough evidence to get perpetrators evicted and charged. It took a very very long time - so get started.