I’m currently pregnant with our second child. First time round we found out the sex and agreed on his name before he was born. My family didn’t want to know the name but his did, so we told them and a few close friends before the birth.
This time round we are not going to find out what we are having - I want the surprise! OH and I agreed on a boys name a few weeks ago and agreed to keep t between ourselves. I don’t want opinions on the name and find people are less likely to give you their opinion after the baby is born. Not long after we decided his friend (let’s call her X) came round and he asked me in front of her if we could tell her the name. It was awkward having this discussion in front of her but I stuck to my guns and said no, we agreed not to tell anyone.
Tonight we have come up with the most perfect girls name. Because I know he can be a blabber mouth I said to him “right we’ve got both our names now. I really don’t want you to tell a soul, they are just between us until the baby is born”. At this point he goes all sheepish and says that when X came over on Sunday and I wasn’t in the room he told her our boys name. He said he was really sorry, he just had to tell someone.
Now I’m not being petty in not wanting to tell people to keep them guessing or anything like that. But I think pregnancy is such a special time and having gone through a miscarriage at the end of last year, and being told 2 days ago there’s potentially a problem with this babies heart, I really don’t want to be telling lots of people anything. We have onlyokd immediate family that I am pregnant again and already his mother has told some of her friends which again has really irritated me. It’s more the fact that if something goes wrong again, I skit like the thought of people I barely know pitying me.
Anyway, I’m rambling. I’m massively pissed off that OH told C behind my back because I feel it just shows a massive lack of respect for me and my wishes, and mugs me off by them having a secret and a laugh about me. I now really don’t trust him not to blab moth our names to other people and leave me in the dark thinking only we know.So AIBU or are my hormones making me crazy?