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AIBU?

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Aibu or childish

33 replies

NameChangedForThisQ · 31/05/2018 19:45

Our friends' car died and they're yet to get a replacement. They invited us to a christening party on Sunday which we drove them to and we all enjoyed.

They asked if we would drive them 3 hour round trip to large Costco and we agreed. I am pregnant and didn't feel well on the day. We postponed for an hour. By the time it was time to leave I felt so awful I was crying but it was too late to cancel.

So I put on a brave face and off we went. I need to be there as DP on a provisional licence. We were less cheerful than usual. They asked us if we didn't want to go. We said we're very tired but we promised to help you out and it's fine. We had the music on instead of chatting.

They then seemed to get in a mood. They were not friendly to us and did not say thank you. Neither did they ask how I was feeling or show that they appreciated our effort in any way.

The next day she puts an indirect status on FB about people being moody.

AIBU to think that we went out of our way and their expecting us to entertain them as well as giving them a lift is OTT?

Well aware this all sounds quite childish. However I am a reforming people pleaser and have trouble with boundaries at times.

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AllMYSmellySocks · 31/05/2018 20:45

It does sound very childish but it's your friend's that are being childish not you. Passive aggressive Facebook status's from an adult? You did them a massive favour they should have been grateful!

Maelstrop · 31/05/2018 20:48

Why didn’t you just say no? Music instead of talking? Your friend must have felt super uncomfortable but then she should never have asked such a huge favour, surely she could’ve just gone to a local supermarket?

NameChangedForThisQ · 31/05/2018 20:49

pair of you sulking

DP wasn't sulking he was fine. I was not sulking I was feeling very unwell, emotional and tired.

They were also very rude in not saying thank you. Indirect FB is also rude.

Which is why I feel extremely resistant to apologising. I think explaining might be all right. But I guess it depends how they respond.

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NameChangedForThisQ · 31/05/2018 20:51

Maelstrop She and her DP were in the back together mostly talking amongst themselves, which was fine by me.

I would have been saying no literally 5 mins before leaving. Which felt ruder than going and telling them I was tired and not up to much. In hindsight I would have cancelled.

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llangennith · 31/05/2018 20:52

Leave it OP. You didn’t feel well but you still took them on a 3hour round trip to Costco and whether or not they felt uncomfortable they should be grateful. Bad enough they didn’t thank you but to post adverse comments on FB is just plain rude.

User467 · 31/05/2018 20:58

Just let it blow over. FB post was unnecessary but I hate when people offer a favour, say it's fine even when I check/say not to worry then take the hump when doing it. Just cancel, it not their fault you didn't

Usernameunknown2 · 31/05/2018 20:59

Leave it. You should have both said no, theg were cheeky and rude not saying thank you. Say no next time.

MadMags · 31/05/2018 21:17

We were less cheerful than usual. They asked us if we didn't want to go. We said we're very tired but we promised to help you out and it's fine. We had the music on instead of chatting.

Doesn’t sound like he was fine. Sounds like he acted exactly like you. Confused

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