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Child ear piercing.

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MrsPreston11 · 31/05/2018 16:47

7 and 5. It's out of the questions this year as DH is NOT on board.

Much to the chagrin of the older one, and therefore the younger one too......

What's the standard age now? Not many in either of mine's classes with them pierced.

What ages have worked for your kids? And where did you get them done?

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MiggeldyHiggins · 02/06/2018 11:23

I love the hyperbole on these threads. It’s so beautifully entertaining

Its not hyperbolic, you just clearly can't think it through.

How is ok to ram sharp metal through a childs flesh if its your own, but not if its someone elses? How is it ok if its to look pretty?

its not logical is it? When you take an argument further along to show the illogical nature of it, some people who dont' understand rhetoric giggle about hyperbole.

BrutusMcDogface · 02/06/2018 11:23

Why do they get them done in the maternity unit in Spain? Just, why? Yes, tradition, but.....why? I personally think tiny babies look horrible with earrings in their brand new tiny ears.

JacquesHammer · 02/06/2018 11:49

*Its not hyperbolic, you just clearly can't think it through.

How is ok to ram sharp metal through a childs flesh if its your own, but not if its someone elses? How is it ok if its to look pretty?

its not logical is it? When you take an argument further along to show the illogical nature of it, some people who dont' understand rhetoric giggle about hyperbole*

Oh please. I’m going to break it down very simply for you.

My DD told me at 10 she would like earrings. We talked about it. She was given the choice of with a needle or not at all. She chose.

Can you really not see the difference between that and your example of ramming a nail into someone’s hand?

For a start if you think an ear lobe is comparable to a hand you’ve got problems, which is evidenced in your posts.

TheGreatestHo · 02/06/2018 11:53

I think I was 14-Claire’s fucked it up with the gun leaving two holes into one. It’s a fucking joy putting an earring in that ear. Not.

Maybe we need to stop supporting Claire’s and their one day piercing trained piercers

Anyway, I’d wait til double digits at very least and even then I’d rather not be responsible. Mind you mine are 7&9 so things might change but it’s a huge no now

MiggeldyHiggins · 02/06/2018 11:53

whatever. Don't whine at me because you don;t understand how arguments work. Hmm

JJS888 · 02/06/2018 11:54

The only person I have heard of who had nails rammed into their hand was Jesus. By the same token, I wouldn't recommend assuming your child can walk on water Grin I love this thread

JacquesHammer · 02/06/2018 11:56

whatever. Don't whine at me because you don;t understand how arguments work

😂😭😂

JacquesHammer · 02/06/2018 11:56

Maybe we need to stop supporting Claire’s and their one day piercing trained piercers

Absolutely. I would fully support all gun piercing being banned

Minisoksmakehardwork · 02/06/2018 11:58

My eldest was maybe 6-7 when she had hers done.

Whatever anyone says about gun v needles (dd1 was a gun), you do not want two guns at the same time. If one person does theirs slightly different time and the child flinches, the other piercing will be in a different to intended place.

Thirtyrock39 · 02/06/2018 12:00

Infant school age isn't a good age as they tend to fiddle with them and get infections. Loads of my daughters year 2 class ended up infected and had to stop wearing them.
Mine were year 4 and year 6.
Don't go to Claire's it's a total rip off.

Confusedbeetle · 02/06/2018 12:01

No absolutely not. It is labelling, as are tattoos. Flame away

JacquesHammer · 02/06/2018 12:03

No absolutely not. It is labelling, as are tattoos. Flame away

I’m all (my very pierced) ears. Just what do those labels say?

m0therofdragons · 02/06/2018 12:06

I wouldn't until they stop playing on climbing frames as much (I watched as a girl at my primary ripped her ear getting hers caught). I've also told my dc that until the remember to brush their teeth and hair without prompting there's no way they can have ears pierced as they'll be taking care of them. Last year I was sat in A&E with dd and the other dc in the waiting room was a 7yo with an infected earring that was so bad they were going to put her under general anaesthetic to cut it out! I have no idea why people thing making holes in dc skin is a good idea but I feel I'm in the minority.

(My ears were pierced age 11 end of year 7 summer holiday but I became allergic to silver in my early 20s so had to remove. Had them re-pierced age 28 and only wear white gold now)

Maldives2006 · 02/06/2018 12:45

No most of us just like wearing earrings, i’ve Personally never had a man/woman tell me how beautiful my pierced earrings look.Confused

TheGreatestHo · 02/06/2018 12:47

At the end of the day though who am I to instruct someone to pierce someone else’s body?

Honestly , I’d rather they signed the forms when old enough to do so themselves

CruCru · 02/06/2018 16:00

I probably won’t let my daughter get her ears pierced until she is 12 at the earliest - piercings on primary school children aren’t to my taste.

tillytrotter1 · 02/06/2018 16:05

No-one could understand that I brought my daughter home from hospital without her ears pierced, that was on Gibraltar. Eventually done during Summer holidays before High School because they couldn't wear them for school so had to be healed properly.

beeswax2014 · 02/06/2018 16:07

My dd had hers done age 10, in readiness for Secondary. I think most girls in her year did the same by the looks of it!

fantasmasgoria1 · 02/06/2018 16:07

I was 5 and so was my daughter. Her friend had them done and she begged me to allow her to. We discussed it and it was done. She was very good and took good care of them.

Morphene · 03/06/2018 00:03

Jaques how about labelled as:

girls (and that really helps teachers to underestimate them efficiently as a group)
someone who needs to be pretty
someone who needs to 'look their best' as a priority
someone who's main value to society is their attractiveness

In the case of children much younger than your own 10 year old, they are labelled further as:

the child of someone who thinks they own their child's body
sub-human in the eyes of their parents (because if you pierced an adult against their will it would be assault)
posessions
fashion accessories of their parents

in answer to your other question, I honestly don't know why tattooing should be treated differently to ear piercing. What makes them different in your eyes?

They both involve painful permanent bodily modification. They both carry the risk of infection and serious illnesses. Doing either of them to someone else without their permission should be considered assault regardless of the age of the person its done to.

Morphene · 03/06/2018 00:04

thegreatest urghh...that's actually turned my stomach...the idea you sign on behalf of someone else to have a piercing.

Morphene · 03/06/2018 00:12

In other news, as predicted 7 yo DD thinks its a crazy idea to stick metal through your ear. She can't imagine why anyone would want to do that. She worries it would be painful, that it would lead to infection and she likes her ears the way they are.

For my next trick I will expose her to lots of instances of children her age and older wearing earrings, and being praised for being attractive and watch her change her mind...

(obviously I don't actually have to do that part, it will happen all by itself)

Would anyone like to place any bets as to whether she will notice the role of peer pressure in her inevitable change of heart? Will she say 'everyone else has them so I want them' or will she think she wants them just for herself because she thinks she will prefer the way she looks with earrings?

Anyone who thinks their 5 yo wants earring for any other reason than peer pressure is actually crazy.

Tulip7 · 03/06/2018 00:14

Personally, I hate seeing little ones with their ears pierced. It just doesn't look right. Maybe once aged 12+. Going off topic, but I also dislike seeing babies with those gold bracelets on their cute chubby arms. Just doesn't fit right with me.

Penygirl · 03/06/2018 00:19

I hate seeing young children with pierced ears but reluctantly agreed to my DDs having theirs done at the end of primary school. That gave them the summer holidays to learn how to care for them and they were able to take them out for PE lessons by the September. As a primary teacher, I was always very frustrated by children who had theirs done mid-term and then couldn't take them out for PE lessons or in some cases still didn't know how to do it after several years!

BalthazarImpresario · 03/06/2018 00:21

My dc is 10 and having it done soon, had to wait until the good piercer would do it which is 10+
Would not go somewhere like Claires or use a gun.