Breaking up the family

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Please help. English is not my first language so I apologise if I make any mistakes.

My boyfriend and I have been in a relationship for only 2 years. I got pregnant very early on when we barely new each other. We kept the child and now have a beautiful DC together. But I do not love him, he is a nice man and always kind and loving, but feels more like a friend than a partner. I don't know if i am just a horrible person but I find him boring, and he does have his issues. He is often disinterested in our child and likes to play on his phone and ignore her a lot of the time. He ignores me sometimes too. Other problems too but won't
go into too many details. The problem is he is really in love with me and discusses our future, marrying me and having more children. He will be devastated.

We rent a flat together, have our 1 year old and a car we share. I only work part of the time so can't afford to live anywhere alone with my child so feel stuck. We are also in the early stage of buying a house together and I am paniced and am unsure if I want to. His family are all very nice and will hate me.

Am I wrong for breaking up the family unit? How can I do this? How would you tell him?

Don't stay with him if you don't love him. It's kinder to let him find someone who will love him, although he won't see it that way.

Stop the housebuying process right now! If you go through with it, you will feel trapped, and even if you split up, until your name is taken off the mortgage (by him remortgaging in his own name only) you will find it difficult to get another mortgage in the future, and if he stopped paying the mortgage, they would chase you for the payments.

Stop worrying about what his family will think of you. Start planning on leaving him. Find out how much in tax credits and housing benefit you'll be entitled to, there are calculators online, or you could go to CAB and speak to a benefits advisor.

There are plenty of mums out there, working part time and raising children, so don't stay just because you think you can't afford to leave. He will have to pay you child maintenance too. I think it's about 15% of his income for one child.

How will you manage financially if you split? Can you increase you hours at work?

Don’t go through with the house buying if you’re not 100% sure.

You can’t stay with him for the money, believe me I tried, it doesn’t work.

You need to figure out how you can split now.

Thank you for replies. I just feel so lost about it all and like my life is a giant mistake. I'm only 25.

Don't beat yourself up OP, everyone makes mistakes. But you need to learn from them, and not carry on doing something when you know it's a mistake.