to want to put fire ants in the next person's underwear who ask me

[AlphaBites]

What my SN child's skill is ? 😒

As soon as it becomes apparent or is mentioned that my child is autistic, straight away people get all enthused that she must be brilliant at maths ? (nope - she's working at 3 yrs below her age), excellent memory ?(nope again - very poor at this) or brilliant at coding ? (No again - she gets confused by it all).

I know I'm being U, but having just read my child's EHCP report tonight it makes me sad to read all her difficulties as she's globally behind and when people ask what her 'superpower ' (yes, really) and the answer is none, I feel even more shit that I had a child who is going to struggle hard throughout her life and I can't take those away to make it better 😞

She gives you the power not to tell people who ask stupid questions to fuck off to the far side of fuck!
She gives you the insight to identify fuckwits and eejits?
She makes your heart break and your spirits lift at the same time?
Or maybe ask them what their special "power" is?
Or say she can fly, tame dragons and ride unicorns?
Disclaimer I've had a glass of wine and I'm wearing my special sarcastic pyjamas today.

Hello Alpha, I have an autistic DD too... she's also not too hot at maths, and until she started high school was very behind.
She's doing better now, and is less behind. I guess she does have a talent - art and general creativity.

I used to despair about her future, but she's getting better at basic stuff all the time and I've realised how insightful and practically minded she is. I'm now more hopeful.

What I'm trying to say is that there is time and hope, and perhaps your DD will also shine as she matures. How old is she?

I think I'd fix them with a steely glare and say "you do know Rainman wasn't a documentary don't you?"...

Some folk just don't think do they?

Her skill is knowing you are a bit of a tit!!

OHs cousin, autistic, now early 20s, discovered a love of gardening, after some stops and starts he does gardens locally and works for a major local estate, has just bought a brand spanking new van, has clients coming out his ears including us and is loving life. His people skills develop every day.

Your daughter hasn't decided or discovered what her skill is yet.

I think people just don't know what say. I think people think they are helping by being positive. They don't mean to be offensive, they are probably trying to make you feel better.

But they can't make it better and sometimes I just wish people would be content with understanding that it's difficult at times, and all they really need to say is 'that must be hard for you'.

My son is a linguistic genius. But it's completely irrelevant as he won't 'perform' for school tests. If he leaves school with no qualifications it won't matter one bit that actually he is really very smart.

His current target is to follow an instruction from an adult at school once per day. We are still working on it...

Hi Alpha, I like Pham's ideas, but I don't think I would be brave enough to use them. Ha ha ha. I do have one talent, I speak nine languages, but because of my Visual disabilities, I get asked if my hearing more memory and other things are much better. They aren't. Yes it gets annoying, and I wish people wouldn't use stereotypes that they sought in the Helen Keller movies or from very old things that don't relate now a days. Or Rainman. Everybody is different, they should remember that. I should also add that even with the languages, I have still had to work very hard at them. They didn't just come like that. Plus it is very very likely that I have learning difficulties, I need to be assessed, but it's very likely and so actually writing and reading the languages can be a very big problem. I spent about eight hours a day learning Greek over the past year.