to want sex whilst kids are in the house?

[CarriePerry]

DP works nights most of the time so we only see each other on weekends (apart from about an hour a day when I get in from work and he's getting ready for work). We have his DD on the weekend and he doesn't feel comfortable having sex whilst she's in the house. She's only 6, and I don't see a problem with it if it's in the morning when she's still asleep or after she's gone to bed. We have a baby on the way and I'm not sure whether he expects us to never have sex again after they're born!

AIBU to think that sex is normal and as long as the kids don't see/hear you doing it it really doesn't matter?

When do you and your DP find time to have sex?

I thought that the prevailing opinion, maybe even a rule, is that anyone may refuse sex for any reason at any time.

We gave had quickies before when Ds was in but only if sure wouldn't be disturbed but usually it's after he's in bed.Get it in when you can!

We just lock the door and be quiet.

My DH and I had our DD sleeping in a cot beside our bed while she was a baby.
It never stopped us, and she usually slept through it, but I still remember one night, when, engaged in the throes of passion, a little hand came through the cot bars and patted me reassuringly on the arm. DD’s little face was such a picture of concerned sympathy that we fell about laughing!
Sadly, DH died when she was 11 months old, so we never had the problem of older children overhearing us.

Maybe he just doesn't want to have sex while you're pregnant and he's just using that as an excuse or was he like that before then too?

Sadly, DH died when she was 11 months old, so we never had the problem of older children overhearing us.

I'm so sorry :(

Babdoc

Well maybe ask him openly and don’t assume he should just be happy to do it when you want to?

I mean, if this was reversed....

Babdoc

So he's happy to have sex when he's on days? Stop having sex then and see if he gets the message.

Its perfectly feasible to have sex (in a desecrate way) whilst your kids on in the house.

What if it were reversed

I would likely receive the same answers would I not? Surely a woman not wanting to have sex with children in the house is the same as a man not wanting to have sex with children in the house? Also, where have I assumed he should want sex with me only when I want it? I have asked him openly and this is the response he has given me twice. I'm not trying to force him, I simply wondered whether other people stopped having sex entirely once they had children in the house and if I was being unreasonable to think this is strange.

@GySgtHartman yes you're right, nobody should be forced to have sex with anyone. I believe this is called rape. I am simply asking if the reason for not wanting to have sex is a strange one, as once our child is born they will be in the house with us 24/7, implying that we will never have sex again.

@Babdoc so, so sorry for your loss

@Trinity66 he's always been like this, but when he's on days it doesn't matter we just do it in the week.