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Any more NDN Cf

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Ataloss2567 · 30/05/2018 12:33

Sooo I probably ABU but I love reading these CF threads 🙈 and they are definitely taking my mind off some crap in my life atm!

If anyone has any CFness let me know 😁😁

One of my worst has to be CF exNDN.
They used to park on our drive, regularly go into our garage to access our back garden (could walk right through) and the worst has to be when we moved out. We had a week of still having the old house and moving into the new. Went back to the old house on the day before we were due to hand in the keys to find CF had obviously thought we were gone so had been using our garden as an extension of their own. They had left a FULL PADDLING POOL in our garden and a load of rubbish. We had to quickly tidy it up as new tenants were due to get the keys the next day. I am ashamed to say I may have accidentally popped the paddling pool and thrown it back over their fence....

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Justaboutawake · 30/05/2018 12:39

We live at the end of a terrace so have a side gate to the back garden. When we first moved in we soon discovered that, instead of taking door keys out with them, our NDN would leave their back door unlocked and just trot through our garden and jump the 2ft wall to get into their house... scared the absolute crap out of me when i first witnessed it

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Ataloss2567 · 30/05/2018 12:41

@justaboutawake honestly I am not sure why some people think it is acceptable to walk through/ be in other peoples gardens! They wouldn’t walk through a house would they! Or maybe they would! 🤔

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T1M2N3T4 · 30/05/2018 12:44

I hope you got a padlock for the gate after that to stop the cheeky twats justabout

DevilsDoorbell · 30/05/2018 12:48

Lock for the gate and a motion sensor sprinkler should do the trick

Justaboutawake · 30/05/2018 12:49

Yep got a big lock. Tbf the house was empty for so long before we moved in that they just got into the habit I suppose. Have a great relationship with them now though - they take in all my parcels, give my DD birthday and Xmas presents and look out for the house whilst we are at work. We are very lucky and I’m sure they probably think I’m now the CF for all the online shopping!

LostPlatypus · 30/05/2018 13:09

My NDN (and the postie, and a bunch of other lazy people) walk across my gravel (noisy so I can hear each sodding person) garden to get to the flats and park at the back. NDN also used to let his dog out unsupervised and she used to use my garden as a toilet, which of course he never cleaned up. Said dog also barked her head off any time NDN was out, which was especially annoying when he went out clubbing.

My garden is now an over-grown mess (mostly due to mental health issues, and the fact that the underlay needs replacing, before anyone jumps on me) and it's surprisingly not used as a path as much any more!

Oh and NDNs landlord (other NDN) creeps around in the dark doing weird stuff. Sometimes he trims the bushes at the front of the flats. Sometimes he sits in people's gardens and has the police called on him. He also watches every new tenant that moves in & then wonders why he can't keep tenants. I swear the police are like ffs not Lost's postcode again, because you have him and then you have two other neighbours that fight a lot (verbally).

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Ataloss2567 · 30/05/2018 13:24

@Lostplatypus you win! That sounds majorly creepy!

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TheShapeOfEwe · 30/05/2018 13:44

Mine is slightly similar to yours! When we bought our current house it had been empty for several months as the owners had moved abroad before it was sold. A couple of days after we moved in I heard yelling from the garden - went out to find NDN's kids (from the house whose garden backs on to ours) playing football in it! Turns out their mum didn't like them playing in her garden because they damaged the flowers so for months had been sending them round to play in ours via the unlocked side gate.

To be fair, the kids were as horrified to see me as I was to see them and they haven't been back since (except to ring the bell and ask for their ball back every 3 days when they kick it over the fence!)

thatsscottishtender · 30/05/2018 13:50

We have a garage and our driveway continues past it and has a dropped curb. Someone in our street was parking their car every day on the drive with the dropped curb. I think they owned a car yard because it was a new car every day. I started parking my car there to stop them and they would just squeeze their car in right against mine. I ended up telling them I'd have it towed in future. Haven't had an issue since !

LostPlatypus · 30/05/2018 13:54

@Ataloss2567 I'm not sure I want to win a CF/creepy NDN competition! Grin He does other CF stuff but it's too outing. He just acts like he owns the place basically. I was hoping after the last police incident he would stop, but in typical CF style he was back strutting around as usual as soon as his tenants moved out.

Oh, actually, I can probably mention this if I don't give too many details. He threatened to call the police on a builder that was brought in to repair a party wall, because said builder needed to access his garden briefly in order to carry out the work (all work was outside). It was work that was sorted out jointly through both parties insurance companies so a) he was well aware that the work was happening, what needed to be done and when etc and b) he thinks absolutely nothing of walking in my garden, including up to my front door, whenever the hell he likes.

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Ataloss2567 · 30/05/2018 14:02

😂😂😂 you couldn’t make it up could you!

Where on Earth do these people come from?!
Although we just moved into a new house and I have just taken the bin out (post night shift so in my husbands tshirt and my pjs) and my new neighbour shouted me over the road to introduce herself. Looked in the mirror when I came back in and she must be wondering what on Earth just moved in 😂 I look a right tramp!

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Diplobrat · 30/05/2018 14:04

@Justaboutawake I had similar on Saturday night! I moved in to my (ground floor) flat quite recently and haven't met the people next door yet. My doorbell went at 11.30 and it was a group of 3/4 saying they lived next door and had locked themselves out, could they please come through my flat (mid-terrace) and hop over the garden fence...

They looked annoyed when I said no on the basis that I had no idea who they are.

Tistheseason17 · 30/05/2018 14:12

We were getting some work done in garden and my neighbour just wandered around to have a look. He nearly shit himself when I came out the Back door.

He DID it again the next day so I mentioned how odd it was I kept finding him in my back garden and that knocking on my door is the social norm...

The CF still keeps going on holiday and not sorting someone to look after their chickens. CF even pretended he was checking on "security " in the neighbourhood to find out if we were about, recently. I will never be free to look after their chickens!

Tistheseason17 · 30/05/2018 14:13

Btw- he has NEVER given us eggs!

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Ataloss2567 · 30/05/2018 14:22

@Tistheseason17 😂😂😂 I’ve had this with a relative who kept pestering us to look after her chickens. She bangs on all the time about how they are the children she never had. What a mistake that was ! One looked a bit ill so I took it to the vets (paid a fortune!) anyway it was perky as anything when she returned. Was she appreciative? No! Said she usually doesn’t take them to the vets as it costs too much money! So much for being like her children!!!!

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LostPlatypus · 30/05/2018 14:41

Ataloss2567 Grin Your neighbours sound as bonkers as mine! Mind you I only get shouted at to be told I'm putting the bins out on the wrong day (it's never the wrong day, they've just forgotten there's been a bank holiday and the day has changed) even if I'm trying to creep around at 7am to avoid being shouted at!

Justaboutawake · 30/05/2018 14:42

Now that I know them and my DD is older (was 1yr old when we first moved in) I really don’t mind as they have more than proved to be wonderful neighbours over the years. I even manage to ignore their GCs sitting on my front garden wall to eat ice creams and tapping on my door just to hear the dog barking (although they haven’t done that since I opened the door on a day off and they shit themselves and ran away!)

mouseymummy · 30/05/2018 15:05

Not my actual ndns but their sons!!

So ndn are quite a bit older than me and have 2 son's around my age and they have 4 or 5 kids between them. I know the sons quite well as one of them has a dc the same age as my dd and they're in the same class at school etc.

So, the day in question, my kids have been playing out in the garden most of the day and had left their toys in my secure garden as they were in for tea. ndns son comes round and gets his son's quad out of the van, so he can ride it in the field at the back, the other son turns up so there's now 4 dc in total, ranging from 7 to 2. It's around 6pm and my kids are in eating tea, I went to go check on some washing on the line.

I find the 3 younger dc in my garden, playing with my kids toys and they had got the guinea pigs out from their cage and had them in the garden, not in their run tho!!!!! We have 3 pigs and I spent 30 mins trying to find one of them!!!! The parents were literally just stood at the end of my garden chatting! They'd even opened my back gate yo allow the kids in ffs.

I wouldn't have minded if they had asked, I would have been able to secure the pigs and make the garden safe for kids who don't know My garden (lock the shed up, mine know not to go in mum's tool house) etc etc. Plus they know the pigs only come out when mum says and only mum or biggest dc brings them out!

MissionItsPossible · 30/05/2018 15:15

mouseymummy

I would have had a right go at them for that.

I was a CF neighbour before, I was living in halls when I was a student and my friend was staying over and I stole two bottles of WKD out of the fridge that weren't mine for us.

Tistheseason17 · 30/05/2018 15:35

@Ataloss2567

Perhaps it IS your relative! Nah can't be actually as on one occasion they sent their 5yr old round to ask...when are you going on holiday, I asked... the taxi is coming in half an hour, he replied. Proper CF cowards getting kids to do dirty work.

Loopyloo1987 · 30/05/2018 15:36

Not my NDN but my mums . Moved in a few years ago and have continuously banged and drilled non stop . And i mean when they 1st moved in it was everyday morning to night sometimes past midnight now its every weekend bank holiday etc . But the noise was horrific . My mum actually used to go and sit in her car for some peace.There place must be a palace the amount of work thats been done. My mum actually found NDN dad in her back garden 1 sat morning. They had taken the fence down and was using my mums garden as there own private building yard for all there crap , and sawing of wood.mother in her pjs was not impressed.
They then put fence back up but left all the debris , rocks , broken bottles etc all along my mums side of the fence.
There also incredibly rude and made comments about my mums house only being council . I cant stand them .

sexnotgender · 30/05/2018 15:44

My parents CF (crazy fucker) neighbour threatened their gardener with secateurs for using their own garden gate! He was of the opinion the communal land that the gate backed onto belonged to him (it didn’t).

lisasimpsonssaxophone · 30/05/2018 15:45

My parents’ new neighbours knocked on the door while I was visiting once. ‘Hi,’ they said. ‘We’ve been using your WiFi recently’.

‘Oh,’ said my Dad. ‘Well, that’s ok, don’t worry about it. Thanks for letting us know!’

NDN replied: ‘Actually, I just came over to make sure you weren’t going to turn it off in the next few minutes? It’s just that we’re in the middle of booking an expensive holiday and I want to make sure the payment goes through OK’.

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Hortonlovesahoo · 30/05/2018 15:55

This was at the last place I lived. Great friendly neighbour and never had any issues with them... until the fence blew down during one of the storms a few years ago, then it was a daily check of: when are you getting the fence up? Which fence panel are you using? I need my privacy.

All understandable. We kept them informed of the timelines and why there was a delay (builder was backed up for weeks due to the storm damage). We offered temporary solutions but they said: no, it’s fine. We’ll wait. Then it’d be repeated. At least 2-4 times a week.

In the end, we replaced all of the fence panels (using the type she said she wanted and at the height) and she continues to complain about it and wanting us to pay for flowers/plants to replace /cover the panels.

Until we left, she started with more demands and issues with our side of the property and it became crazy. One of them where I had to laugh is that she suddenly took offence to a security light coming on. The light had been there longer than any of us had been living there!

headinhands · 30/05/2018 16:09

Neighbours kids would stand and look through the holes in the fence for ages when we were outside. There were four of them and sometimes I invited them round but being so many I didn't always want to have them in the garden especially if we were eating. Sometimes they'd be here for hours and their parents never checked. The youngest was 3!