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AIBU to be offended by this

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user546425732 · 29/05/2018 22:39

A while ago I was given a handbag, the person who gave it to me had bought it in a charity shop and decided it wasn't right for them.
Now the PVC covering is coming off but I can't afford a new bag. I saw the person this morning and they commented about it but then said 'It's OK for you though'

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StealthPolarBear · 29/05/2018 22:41

Yanbu what an insult!

Whatshallidonowpeople · 29/05/2018 22:46

You are complaining about a gift someone gave you?? You can't afford to replace it, so it probably is ok for you. Or do you expect designer stuff without paying?

ZibbidooZibbidooZibbidoo · 29/05/2018 22:54

How did the conversation go? I’m struggling to imagine it.

Also, handbags are ten a penny in charity shops. A couple of quid. Go get yourself a bargain .

Moominfan · 29/05/2018 22:58

Horrible thing to say their no friend

Lacucuracha · 29/05/2018 23:07

Guessing this was your sister? Very bitchy thing to say, give this person the bag back as a Christmas present.

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user546425732 · 29/05/2018 23:23

You are complaining about a gift someone gave you?? You can't afford to replace it, so it probably is ok for you. Or do you expect designer stuff without paying?

No, I have never complained about it. What I am complaining about is that the person (yes, a relative) pointed out that the PVC was coming off when she saw me put my keys away and then said "it's OK for you though"

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ZibbidooZibbidooZibbidoo · 29/05/2018 23:32

Did she mean because you wouldn’t be taking it into meetings or anywhere where appearance has to be pristine?

pickleface · 29/05/2018 23:43

That is a shitty thing to say.

DoJo · 29/05/2018 23:43

You know this person - was is likely to be a clumsy way of backtracking and trying not to imply that you needed to get a new one or similar? Or would it have been a PA dig? I can imagine noticing something like that and then feeling mortified that I had pointed it out and try to say 'oh, but it doesn't really matter' or something more awkward by way of backpedalling.

persypear · 29/05/2018 23:49

Wow :( it is hard to see how she could have meant that in a postive way.

Delphiniumum · 29/05/2018 23:59

OP is not complaining about the bag as a gift.

They are complaining about the fact that when said friend saw them, they themselves commented on the wearing PVC, but then said "It's OK for you though!"

I think it implies you're cheap, have low standards, are a bit tacky, or something to that effect... Maybe "not very well polished or put together."

Offensive whatever she meant.

MyShinyWhiteTeeth · 30/05/2018 00:03

I've been given a very expensive designer handbag that I hate. It's too brightly coloured, not the style I like and too small.

It eventually got damaged and she took it to be repaired for me!

I'm never going to get rid of it. I'm stuck forever with it.

If it came from a charity shop I could just pretend it got damaged severely by fire or rabid dog etc.

Be grateful you'll soon be able to get a replacement.

MyShinyWhiteTeeth · 30/05/2018 00:04

Not a nice comment from them.

PastBananas · 30/05/2018 00:04

Did she mean because you wouldn't be taking it into meetings or anywhere where appearance has to be pristine?

I suspect not. "It's OK for you though" sounds like an insulting put-down to me.

happinessischocolate · 30/05/2018 00:24

"It's okay for you though" would suddenly become my punchline for everything around this person đŸ˜œ I'd have fun with it rather than get mad

Copperbonnet · 30/05/2018 04:08

The only possible positive spin I can out on this is that she realised commenting on the rip seemed critical of you and was trying to make it better.

It’s still pretty rude though.

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