To be sick of friend expecting me to look after her DC all the bloody time?

[Gingerninj]

Close friends with a neighbour, is a single mum to 8 year old DD so I've offered to look after her a few times whilst she's had meetings, appointments and so on. So a few times she's been in a rush, needed to be somewhere urgently and has dropped her DD off at mine which I'm fine with. But nowadays it seems I'm looking after her child at least a few hours a week. I do want to help her out as I'm her friend but I have 3 kids myself. A few weeks ago her DD knocks on my door about 20 minutes after getting home from picking DS up and says her mum isn't home and she doesn't know where she is. She turns up half an hour later saying she completely forgot. I know i need to put a stop to this but i feel bad, she isn't in contact with any of her family, doesn't have many other friends. I'm just not sure how to talk to her about this

Since she has no other family and maybe rwlies in help could you ask her to have ypur dc in exchange. If she is not taking the piss just genuinely needs help she would be happy to have your lot in exchange. If she says no then you say no. You are under no obligation but for thw sake of friendship and doing a good deed.

Bloody phone sorry for the typos fat man fingers. God I wish you could edit.

So, is the kid a handful? Does she fight with your kids? I genrrally have stray kids about, doesn't put me up or down. Keeps my kids off their phones tbh

You need to put a stop to this not just because it’s not fair in you but also because it’s shit for her dd.?She didn’t forget, she knew you would pick up the pieces because you’re a decent person.

How can anyone forget they have a kid and they need to pick them up after school.

That is BS.

She doesn't care about you and your DC just what she can use you for.

There isn't a nice way to say it unfortunately.

Trying not to sound rude but her DD can be a handful, i think she means well but she's very loud and energetic and she's used to getting her own way. Mine are 13, 6 and 20 months. 6 year old plays with her sometimes but i think he finds her a bit bossy and usually wanders off (back to the tv) after a while.

How does she forget that she needs to be home straight from work to get kids or be in for them coming home what if u weren't in have they to sit outside sorry but she is taking advantage of u if she's not giving u anything for doing it or asking u if it's ok u need to have a word tell her Fred child care is over either u come to a paid schedule or no more