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Radicalised dance teacher

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hmmwwyd · 29/05/2018 14:56

Have ncd and changed a few details to protect privacy

DD goes to a dance club. Very nice club, lots of friends and the instructor has become somewhat of a personal friend of the family

A little while ago I was added on Facebook by the dance teacher. All fine. She's a strong influence currently in DD's life and looked up to.

I'm getting increasingly annoyed with the posts however the dance teacher is posting on Facebook. I appreciate they are her personal views

Posts are along the lines of "go home" and anti Muslim propaganda, links to groups like Britain first etc

DD is of other ethnicity herself and we are not particularly religious but she obviously doesn't realise that I hold form of religious belief. I don't see any racism at dance

I'm struggling with just appreciating it's a good club, good activity and how much influence this woman may have over DD as she matures or how DD might feel if she knew of these views?

If it was the odd post - I'd let it go and I may well choose to ignore it. It's constant however and tagging some parents and teenagers in these posts on occasion too!

Do I just hide their posts and ignore?

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therealposieparker · 29/05/2018 15:48

EEWwwww. that's awful/

KC225 · 29/05/2018 15:53

She is entitled to her views - you don't have to agree with them. If your DD is enjoying the class and the dance teacher is not spouting off in the class, why not let her carry on. Perhaps email/text the dance teacher that you are unfollowing her on Facebook and you find her political posts at odds with yours and maybe she will behave more professionally.

Biscuitsneeded · 29/05/2018 15:53

She shouldn't be adding her own pupils as Facebook friends anyway, for safeguarding reasons. Obviously her views are repulsive but she has a right to express them (and then be challenged by anyone she has as a 'friend'!) - but not to incite hatred or influence young people. This may be a case of ignorance and naivete rather than anything more sinister. As you are otherwise on good terms could you send her a message and say you are concerned by her posts as they seem to be targeting people like you and your daughter. She'' provbably say "Oh god no, I don't mean you.... which might be a good opportunity to have a chat and set her straight about how those people she thinks she hates are her friends and clients. If she doesn't stop, alert Prevent and find another dance school - sorry. It's a tough one. I know two peoplel employed to work with children who are genuinely kind, caring individuals who happen to have crazy Tommy Robinson stuff on their Facebook. They aren't teachers, but childcare workers and possibly quite naive and ignorant themselves. I have also been wondering if I should do/say anything...

montenotte · 29/05/2018 16:02

I agree with biscuits - call her out on it. See what she says. She will most likely say "oh i don't mean you..." but it might just make her stop and think. You'll know from her reaction what to do next.

PinguForPresident · 29/05/2018 16:07

How horrible. I'd withdraw my child from the dance club - there's loads of dance schools out there that aren't run by racist bigots. I'd also follow up the suggestion of reporting her to Prevent. It's unacceptable that someone in a position of trust and influence with children adn teeens can be allowed to spread extremist views.

HappyLollipop · 29/05/2018 16:10

And your still allowing your DD to go there?! I would have pulled my child out as personally I wouldn't want to be knowingly be putting money into a racist idiots pocket.

KittyHawke80 · 29/05/2018 16:14

I’m perversely really pleased that you referred to her as ‘radicalized’ when it’s a term we tend to hear only in association with people who’ve joined ISIS or Daesh or whatever. Erm - I’d whip my daughter out of there before you can say Jack Robinson. Racism is vile; its proponents are vile. Get gone,

kateandme · 29/05/2018 16:16

don't let this carry on.dont ignore it.make a stand against this shit and tak your daughter out.alert others to it aswell.she needs closing down or losing all her clients due to disgusting behaviour and idiotic views.ive no time for this crap and cant understand it.

TheDrinksAreOnMe · 29/05/2018 16:17

I'd withdraw, and tell her exactly why

IJustHadToNameChange · 29/05/2018 16:27

Very unprofessional for someone running a business to add clients to her personal Facebook account.

She sould have her security locked down and a dedicated page for her business.

Having said that, nope. I would think about finding a new dance tutor.

SameTerfDifferentUserName · 29/05/2018 16:27

Kitty the training I did I was given a choice of if I wanted to be trained on ISIS or far right. It is officially recognised as radicalisation.

CaloriedUp · 29/05/2018 16:30

I would definitely report to prevent.

Is it true that far right extremism is currently a bigger problem in this country than Daesh?

Lacucuracha · 29/05/2018 16:32

I’m perversely really pleased that you referred to her as ‘radicalized’ when it’s a term we tend to hear only in association with people who’ve joined ISIS or Daesh or whatever. Erm - I’d whip my daughter out of there before you can say Jack Robinson. Racism is vile; its proponents are vile. Get gone,

Took the words right out of my mouth kitty

Roomba · 29/05/2018 16:43

I agree 100% with everyone else.

My cousin is a teaching assistant and shares a FB account with her husband (why do people do that btw? V bizarre). She doesn't log into FB very often, so didn't realise her husband had posted links to loads of Britain First and Tommy Robinson type videos. A parent at the school saw this and made a huge complaint - rightly so. She very narrowly avoided losing her job over it all - it was only that it was a shared account, she'd been oblivious, didn't agree with the views herself and was absolutely mortified that saved her job.

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SameTerfDifferentUserName · 29/05/2018 16:59

Islamic extremists are awful, as are Christian extremists and every other type of extremists. Muslims are as varied as the rest of the population. But you know that and are being a GF.

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CaloriedUp · 29/05/2018 17:06

Incognito, i have reported your post.

Tentomidnight · 29/05/2018 17:07

Contact Prevent, she is in a position of authority with vulnerable people (children) and her views are unacceptable.

ghostyslovesheets · 29/05/2018 17:08

So you would prefer your child to meet Tommy Robinson rather than Malala Yousufzai

exactly - Islam isn't awful - they way some people chose to practice it's teaching is - same as any other religion or political movement

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AlfredDaButtler · 29/05/2018 17:18

There's questioning religion and outright calling a particular one, whose followers are often marginalised and receive racist abuse, "vile".

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AlfredDaButtler · 29/05/2018 17:22

Looks like Monty Python was correct.

Didn't realise they had a song about following the Talk Guidelines.

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