Aibu about discussing therapy with DH? *Trigger warning

[TheWonderfulCat]

When I was only a young kid, a kid slightly older than me molested me multiple times. He wanted to see my bits and wouldn't take no for an answer. For some reason this last month I've been really struggling with it and think it might be worthwhile seeing a therapist.

The problem is, I dont want to tell DH. I dont want this to define me.
Should I just tell him? It's so hard to even admit to myself.

There's no "should" about this situation. You've got to do what you feel is best for you.

Really sorry you are going through this. You say you have been struggling this last month, and you don't know why. It could be something in your subconscious, that was triggered by a word, or an action, and you didn't realise it at the time. I think therapy would really help you to understand why now, you are being troubled by these thoughts. You don't need to tell your husband, until you are ready. I would seriously consider therapy, I'm sure you would find it really helpful.

Speak to your Dr? They can refer you for therapy and you don't have to tell your dh. You may decide you want to at some point however it would be better once you are able to process it.

You can just tell him you have been having some anxiety or similar and you think therapy might help.

You don't have to, get counselling and decide later

I have a friend from childhood who had something similar happen to them when they were a small child. It was a boy only a couple of years older than us and at the time she was very matter of fact about it (in that way only children can be) iyswim? She got in contact with me a couple of years ago (lost touch over the years) to talk about it. She did end up getting some counselling as well, but I think initially she wanted to speak to someone who already knew. Is there anyone you can confide in? Not that there's anything wrong with counselling of course, but talking to someone you know might be easier initially.

Don't tell him! There's no need.

So sorry you’re going through this.
You don’t have to decide now re your DH, but you will never regret counselling. It will be the best thing you ever do.

I watched a TV show that had a graphic rape scene and I haven't been quite right since. The although before that I still wasnt great, I never feel comfortable in a room with someone I dont really know, even family friends

I just worry about what to tell him when I pop out for appointments.

I dont have many friends because my work hours are quite isolating and we work the exact same hours 😟