Am I being selfish?

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IllAndSad · 28/05/2018 22:12

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I'm fed up, I've been feeling like death since about Wednesday, chest infection, bad headache, sore throat, Friday was the worst day ever. I live about 30 miles from family, I live on my own with DS8, and its been a bank holiday weekend and i've had 3 days off work, my mum, and sister have all had time off too,dad has retired. AIBU or selfish to think it wouldn't have hurt one of them to come up for just one day and help with DS8? My mum said on Friday she would've come up Saturday but she was getting her hair done, sister said nothing just moaned about her work all the time and dad said he might come up Sunday (yesturday) he will let me know, he didn't come up and he didn't let me know. I'm now sitting here crying, I'm just sooo tired trying to keep DS entertained over the weekend, and obviously still doing the cooking, washing etc and trying to get over being ill. AIBU or do I need to give my head a wobble and get on with it?

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Bambamber · 28/05/2018 22:14

Did you specifically say to any of them that you really needed help as you wasn't feeling Well?

NewYearNewMe18 · 28/05/2018 22:16

Can you not ask?

BuntyII · 28/05/2018 22:17

Sounds like you have a family like mine. Moan if you don't go to visit them all the time but it would never occur to them to come and visit you.

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IllAndSad · 28/05/2018 22:18

@Bambamber No, But I was on the phone to them all Friday night in tears because I felt like poo and saying how tired I was. Maybe I just should've asked.

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Aprilshouldhavebeenmyname · 28/05/2018 22:18

At 8 your ds should understand you are ill. Show him how it make a cuppa and have a chill day together.
Imo relying on family is a bad idea.

Enjoy some lazy time with your ds.

HollyGoLoudly · 28/05/2018 22:18

to you. YANBU, looking after small kids when you are unwell is exhausting. Even if someone in our family is just needing a break, we will always help each other out if we can. No advice but hope you feel better soon

Singlenotsingle · 28/05/2018 22:18

Well, there's nothing you can do to improve the situation, is there? Problem is, people tend to live in their own little world (and 30 miles is quite a long way to travel. It's out of sight, out of mind! The best way to keep a child entertained is to invite a friend over to play.

stayathomer · 28/05/2018 22:20

Yanbu because you feel rubbish! But sometimes it just doesn't occur to people which is a pity. Hope you feel better and send them a text telling them you're not feeling great and see how it goes or else just ask!

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IllAndSad · 28/05/2018 22:21

@Buntyll It does feel like its me that has to go visit them all the time. I feel guilty that i live away from them (I moved away for EXH job, seperated now, but DS is settled in school and im in a good job) Everything seems worse when your ill though doesnt it

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IllAndSad · 28/05/2018 22:26

&April He does understand, but its horrible when your little one is fed up, its not easy to entertain yourself for 3 days, even more so when your 8. I don't rely on family, which is just as well really

@Single The last thing I want is an extra person to think about ha

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