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To love nights out and drinks until I’m there

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Blackbinsack · 28/05/2018 21:54

I love nights out with friends and spending time with them but after a few drinks I’m ready to go home. This Saturday we went for day drinks after 3 hours I was ready to go home and the others had only just started. I really struggle with making small talk I’m quite shy which doesn’t help. This Saturday we went to a shopping place about 40 mins away I figured that we would all have a look around but no we just sat drinking all day. We also had a really nice spot with comfy seats but had to move to a cheaper bar with no proper seats spare as was heaving. I had a great time until my 3rd or 4th drink. I never used to be like it but now I want to be home by 10.30 eleven on nights out I’m like an old grandma. There all planing a day at a festival in the summer and it’s in London I just no at some point I will want to come home or they will all get legless I end up not enjoying myself having to look after them. If I try keep up or drink more than 3 drinks I get a migraine. I don’t want to loose my friends but they all seem to get annoyed at me going home early every time. I once didn’t get invited out I asked why and they said they didn’t think I liked nights out. I mentioned to them that I do have a condition which has been worse past year when this all started. I just get tired so easily. I’m ok if we do something active but sitting around dosnt help. I’ve suggested doing things but they all say there two expensive think £10 for things but then some will happily spend 50 on drinks

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Liverbird77 · 28/05/2018 22:28

Totally agree with you. You are not alone. Can't be doing with drink after drink. I find it boring.

50shadesofgreyismylaundry · 28/05/2018 22:30

Yep, I'm with you.

Blackbinsack · 28/05/2018 22:32

I love the getting ready and the first few glasses but that’s it until it’s time to dance but clubs open so late I’m in bed before then

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TimesNewRoman · 28/05/2018 22:32

Totally agree and felt the same when I was younger and before DC.
Can you get away with saying "I'll come for a while but I need to leave early for (insert excuse here)".

Strongmummy · 28/05/2018 22:38

What about if you didn’t drink at all when you went out? Do you think you’d feel the same ?

Blackbinsack · 28/05/2018 22:39

I always have an excuse this time i blamed it on train times as I have only hourly trains. but I crept of to go to two outlets shops that I don’t have near me as I was so bored and they kept telling me we hadn’t come to go shopping. I ended up getting the same train as them home they didn’t see me Until I got off. Que embarrassing moment I blamed it on a cancelled train it worked.

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Blackbinsack · 28/05/2018 22:42

One of my friends was also telling me they went to London had arranged to go to a bar with in door crazy golf. She and another girl of the group didn’t want to go even though it was all booked so brought a big bowle of alcohol so they all couldn’t go

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TooTrueToBeGood · 28/05/2018 22:42

Would it help to space your drinks out? One alcoholic drink, on or two soft drinks, one alcoholic drink etc etc.

Blackbinsack · 28/05/2018 22:51

I do I don’t drink much at all they where all getting two drinks at a time when I was only getting one and then one of my drinks was water to I only had singles they all had doubles

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paisleyblue · 28/05/2018 22:52

OP if they are true friends they would respect that you might wish to do other things once in a while. I don't get why they would take the hump if you told them the truth that drinking all day isn't for you.

Sounds like you have got bored of what your friends prefer to do and there's nothing wrong with that. I would be the same if it was a drinking sesh every time we met up and nothing more.

lamerde · 28/05/2018 22:58

Are you me? am I you?

This is EXACTLY how I feel. I just head home now. I’ve enjoyed my time and then I go home and get a cuppa.

You’re not strange, just normal.

princesspeppax · 28/05/2018 23:12

I could have wrote this post, i'm the exact same BlushHmm

Blackbinsack · 29/05/2018 08:53

I really hate it

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mancmummy1414 · 29/05/2018 08:57

I used to love it but not so much any more.
I like having a few drinks at home or going out for a meal, I’m with your friends on not wanting to go shopping though, shopping with other people is the worst!
Sounds like you need new friends, if all they want to do is get shitfaced and go to crowded bars ALL the time they sound like dullards.

ScreamingValenta · 29/05/2018 09:02

Sitting around drinking gets boring very quickly, especially if you are in a loud, crowded venue where you can't hear one another talk. I like a couple of drinks before a meal, then perhaps a drink after the meal before going home. I hate drinking during the day. I don't think you should make excuses to these friends when you've had enough - just say you don't want anything more to drink so you'll be off now; enjoy the rest of your night, see you soon.

PlateOfBiscuits · 29/05/2018 09:06

I’m exactly the same. I get tired in the daytime too to be fair - I can do a few hours of socialising and then I’m done!

My friends are really understanding about it though. Can you just have an honest chat with them?

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