AIBU to think long distance relationships are really hard?

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I have been with my OH for nearly 3 years, and he has recently moved away with work. As I don't want to give up my career (there are no opportunities where he is), I have stayed put and although we both make the effort to travel and see eachother when we can; AIBU to think that absence doesn't make the heart grow fonder, and it is really blimming hard?

I know that I could move, but I would be totally dependant on him (which isn't good), and I would never ask him to leave his job as he would resent me in time I am sure. He won't be there forever, but increasingly feeling lonely- and rightly so friends spend time with their partners and families otherwise I would happily see them. It proabably doesn't help that we don't have a 'base' as such, I am renting a room as is he.

Anyway, anyone else going through or has been through the same who has any advice? Or am I being unreasonable and should listen to the inspirational quotes which say how great it is and how time spent together is more precious...

I get it. My true love lives an 8.5 hour drive away, it sucks but due to many complex reasons neither of us can move.

But OP, there is no other option, we love each other so I'd rather have some of him than nothing at all.

To fill in the gaps there are lots of phone calls, messaging, sexy talk and it keeps the excitement alive. Theres no magic answer OP, one day hopefully you will be together.

I've been through it - first year of our relationship we were 72miles apart which is 2 hours on the train. So not hideous but I was 16 and in education and he was just starting his new job.
We coped. FaceTime was a saviour
No time zones so we would FaceTime and eat together which was nice.
Another favourite was to face time and watch the same film on Netflix (3,2,1 PLAY!!!) and then we would meet as often as we could. Even tedious things like tidying were done on FaceTime for an hour to make it feel like we were together doing the same?
It sounds silly but it helped. Falling asleep on FaceTime on a Friday evening.
We were insanely close (still are) which made the distance horrible.
You will get through it and I hope it doesn't last forever. Welcome to answer any other questions you have!!

(And yes we are still together!x)

Yeah they are. My ex lived on the other side of London from me which may not sound far but it was 2 hours by public transport and neither of us drive. I t definitely made things difficult .