To think this is cheeky

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Had a spare ticket for a family day out. Invited a friend who has no children to come along to join us on our day out. ( basically I thought I'd have someone to chat to while the kids went on stuff we didn't want to or where to big for).

Part way through the day (just after lunch) she decided she'd didn't want to do what was doing and went off to do something else in the park.

I wouldn't mind too much except she was helping carrying a bag and took it with her so I had no money.
Also She didn't pay for her ticket (or offer any contribution to travel costs, tickets costs)
I made her lunch she didn't bring anything with her food or drink wise but happily ate what I had brought to eat and drink.

She basically came along did what she wanted, for fed and said see you later.

I know she had money as she asked if £60 would be enough for the day. I don't think I'd have even thought about the money if she had spent the day with us but she didn't.

We had a good time anyway but I think it's really cheeky and that if you go for a day out with someone you don't just go off on your own.

Offer of a free ticket doesn't mean she's your bag carrier for the whole day. I think she's been polite spending half the day with you and now wants to do her own thing. She's not tied to you

Travel contribution would have been nice but if it would have cost you the same with or without her I can understand her not offering.

I didn't ask her to be my bag carrier I was carrying a back pack with all the kids stuff in jackets/ hats sun cream and lunch and another with lunch in. She offered to carry a bag.
She took it with her and I didn't realised she still had it until she was gone.

I guess she isn't tied to me but I did make her lunch and take her drinks and snacks so that did cost me more taking her. She said she didn't have any thing in to make lunch so would have cost her a lot more to buy food there.

I guess I wanted to spend the day with a friend and she wanted to spend the day doing her own thing.

Alton towers?

I don't think it was cheeky.

I think it was fucking rude.

Sounds to me that you’re more pissed off about the fact that she buggered off half way through the day. Is she a close friend?
I’m pretty sure a mate of mine in those circumstances wouldn’t have left me, and I certainly wouldn’t have either.

The bag thing would have bothered me. Leaving you with no money was a bit shit.
Couldn't you have called her mobile or something and let her know that she had your money?

Did you invite her to come with you, or did you say you had a spare ticket to sell for x amount...if it was the first , then you can't expect payment as you didn't specify it wasn't a gift

Did she ask you to make her lunch?..if she didn't then you can't complain about making it ,

Also accepting a ticket doesn't make her your automatic bag carrier/extra pair of hands with the kids etc...she isn't obliged to spend every minute of the day out with you

If she hasn't got kids, then being around kids/doing kids stuff can get a bit much or get a bit boring, (it won't be boring to you as their mother, but could be to her)..so why shouldn't she have a bit of time to herself, she spent half a day doing what you want, why can't she have a bit of time doing what she wants...

I think you are being unreasonable, giving someone a ticket doesn't mean you control their movements for the day

I thought she was a close friend but then I don't think close friends would do this so maybe I'm wrong.

I did try to call her mobile but phone reception was crap. I did eventually get In touch with her and get my bag and purse back.

I'm going to just say this, so please don't take it the wrong way, but.....
Is there any chance your kids were driving her nuts and she'd had enough? Other people's kids can be trying, especially for those without any of their own.

The kids where being good no arguing or fighting over what to do. Not always the case but today they where well behaved. If they where being horrors (and I know they aren't angels) I would get needing a break. Sometimes I want a break from them but today they where being good.
She a TA so use to being around kids. Says she loves kids. I wasn't asking her to do any of the parenting stuff just stand in the queue if she wanted to do what was next or stand/ Sit with me and have a chat while the kids did that then we would all move on to the next thing.
Just to clarify we started the day with things she had said she really wanted to do. She went back and did the same thing again while we moved on to see what else there was to do.