Advice needed please

[Cheeselover23]

I appreciate this most likely isn’t the right place so please don’t flame me for it.
I was made homeless a while back so went to a charity who offered me a home around may time. About a week later a family member offered me a place.
The thing is I currently don’t pay anything towards living where I am but I’d have to pay £70 a week to live with this current stranger. I also have no rules right now but the new place there’d be lots including no candles, curfews (which is fair enough) and just other ones (I need to be given a full sheet of this yet).
I was told I could have the room with the charity by end of June or July time last week but now I don’t know what to do.
The only issue with where I am now is it isn’t a very clean flat and as much as I’d like to blitz it I’m very depressed and I work long hours, sometimes 6:30am to 10pm.
I’m also leaving my main job due to a miscarriage and realising I am no longer giving the interaction the children I care for need and I’m unlikely to be able to do this for a long time. I will be getting more hours at my second job but I don’t see how I’ll be able to afford to pay the £70 a week, food shopping, vehicle insurance, petrol etc on this money. Getting another job right now isn’t on the cards because of my mental state (thankfully I’ve been at the second job since I was 14 so they’re very understanding and know how to make the job as easy as possible for me).
Sorry for rambling and for typing so much. If anyone has any insight I’ll be so grateful, and I’ll be happy to answer any questions too. Thank you 😁

What is your AIBU?

Aibu to stay where I am for now despite the uncleanliness and lack of room I suppose

On the face of it it seems that staying with family and saving money for a deposit on a private rented flat/houseshare would be sensible, but maybe do a list of pros and cons for each option to help you think it through?

Are there any advantages to staying at the flat provided by the charity?

Can you sit down with a pen and paper and write everything you'd need to pay for down? And work out from that what you can afford? You said its a family member, would there be room for negotiation there? Eg you pay 40 per week but agree to gradually decorate the rooms (refresh paint etc not major works like new kitchen).
Ignore TheHop. Aibu to not know what to do perhaps.

The advantage to the new place would be being one step closer to having a place of my own. I’m almost 18 and have privately rented a room before so I can’t apply for a place of my own yet but I also definitely can’t afford to rent another room without this charity as they’re so expensive where I live. On paper where I am is ideal but I’m also just not happy and idk if that’s because of where I live. Thank you for your comment

Will you be able to clean where you are now after you drop your hours?

Me thinks, even though the place is not clean, try and clean it up as best as you can.
That £70 you will be paying that family member per week, could be your savings towards your long ter goal.
£70 x 52 weeks = £3,640 which you do not have right now.
Some times we have to crawl before we can walk, and I think crawling means staying where you are and save as much as you can towards that place you can call your own (or in in my words - God bless the child that have its own) and that it exactly what you will have.
Here's another thought, how will you manage, if after 2 or 3 months the £70 increases to £100. And it could happen.
Nothing beats standing on your own two feet and that to me means staying where you are ans saving like there is no tomorrow. Good luck.

Thank you all so much for your comments. I’ve realised staying put right now is the best thing to do and I will be calling the charity tomorrow to decline their offer. I am so grateful for everyone’s helpfulness 💕