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Thick skin wanted

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Thickskin · 28/05/2018 14:26

So, I suffer from depression and anxiety and never really got any meds for it. But I'm depressed mostly about my weight, I'm a size 26, and I hate going out. Even things like going to the shops or park is hard, I don't like going out cuz in my head I'm thinking everyone staring at me because I'm fat. I feel so uncomfortable in social gatherings, I could spend days in my home. That's where I feel most comfortable .

I'm living my life in my head, I'm thinking when I lose weight there's so many things I want to do, but that never happens. Still trying to lose weight.

Today I was just outside with the kids, one of my neighbours started chatting to me, she moved in a year ago but we've never spoken . Everything was fine, she then said to me "I've never really seen you out, you don't go out much do you?" She said this with a smile, I don't know but I felt upset and really down. I know it was harmless, and she was just genuinely curious. But it made me feel upset.

I worry a lot of what people think of me, hence why this made me feel down.

So those of you with a thick skin, how do you do it?

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Trinity66 · 28/05/2018 14:34

Aw she was probably trying to be nice rather than offensive. It's a not a nasty comment but I can see why it might upset you because you're sensitive your weight and don't go out alot because of it.

Tookawrongturnsomewhere · 28/05/2018 16:14

How did you react to what she said? Maybe she was being clumsy saying that she was glad you d been able to meet... I mean it wasn't a bad thing to say.. But clumsy..does she seem nice tho..? Is it someone you d like to get to know or.... Im really sensitive and hate it sometimes.. Which isn't helping to answer your question.. But I've tried to see others point of view more and it makes it a bit easier.. Like maybe she doesn't know people that well.. Would like to have a friend nearby.. That kind of thing..

Claireshh · 28/05/2018 16:17

She is probs my kicking herself about being so tactless. I’m around 3 stone overweight and it feels impossible. It is doable though. It’s one minute, one hour, one day at a time. I’m sure like me you know what you need to do. Everything we do is a choice. You are not happy as you are so why wouldn’t you change it? Lots of love x

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