Was I BU to my bf?

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Went out last night with a very new boyfriend and our group of friends (we were friends before a relationship) to an event and went clubbing after.

His sister is part of The friendship group and was very drunk/ getting emotional just pointlessly getting upset over nothing so he was annoyed. I spotted a friend in the club and said I’d Be right back after saying hello. I came back to find my bag (with 180 quid in!!) on the table on its own and him gone.

Cue our friends telling me he walked out because he was annoyed with his sister. He eventually came back and I was obviously annoyed at the situation but ignored it and continued dancing and having a good time with friends

One of my friends said to me he’d said he wants to talk to me and sort out the situation. I refused to speak to him 1. Because I wasn’t that bothered, but making it an issue to talk about would have annoyed me. 2. I didn’t want to make a scene in front of friends by having ‘a talk’ and.3. I just wanted to have a good night.

He got annoyed I wouldn’t talk to him to talk out the fact he walked out left me and my bag even though I told him forget about it and have a good night and don’t make it an issue

WIBU or was he by not listening to me?

Were you all drinking? If so, just forget about it and move on, doesn't sound like a big deal, just people being extra sensitive with alcohol on board

YABU for carrying £180 in cash!

Otherwise, it sounds like everyone just got a bit worked up on a night out and he just wanted to make amends - but I understand why you find it annoying that he keeps going on about it. I would just reassure him it's totally fine and you don't care and act normally with him.

Surely you're the only one who should be responsible for your bag? Did he even know it was there? Unless you specially asked him to keep an eye on it yabu. Just keep it with you.

Never trust a bloke to stay with your handbag! They're not used to having to 'mind' them and have a habit of wandering off. Always take your bag with you.

The whole night sounds like hard work.

He's not responsible for his sister. If she wants to get drunk and emotional that's up to her. She does sound annoying but if they're both old enough to be out drinking then he's not her babysitter. Leave her be.

He is responsible for himself. If he wants to walk out and back in again later that all sounds a bit childish and dramatic and he needs to grow up. Was he bothered that he wasn't the centre of attention?

Friends acting as go-betweens begging you to talk to each other also sounds overly dramatic and childish, especially since you'd said to forget about it and move on.

It very much reads that he walked out and nobody followed him making a fuss, so he came back and created one.

Is he normally that high maintenance? Is this kind of drama normal for your group?

What on earth are you doing carrying £180 in your bag, knowing you're going to go and get drunk and go to a club? The mind boggles, it really does. Take care of your belongings. Why would you even let that amount of money out of your sight?

Are you all 12 18?

£180?! I can go out with £20 and come back with change!